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So I've been having a low day today and feeling pretty rubbish.

It got me wondering. Why the hell does xWS get to move on with his life so easily? When will the karma bus knock him over?

I'm just feeling sad and grieving the person he used to be and feel so sad for my two young children. I know tomorrow after I've had a good nights sleep I'll feel so much better.

Just wanted to vent really. :(

Best thing to do right now is to think about yourself. Forget about X. You had that time when you two were together. Now It's only your time. Have fun and enjoy life. In a few months you won't even remember who he was. Oh and the karma bus is always there waiting for them to trip themselves right into it's path. Don't worry and spoil YOU!!!!

I'm with you dindy. I can't stand that they can move on so easily while we are stuck in neutral. I had quite a set back today, and I got to thinking that ex-ahole seems to actually be happier in his new life! That really sent me reeling. I'm still having a hard time with that one.

Everyone says to move on with your life but I have absolutely no idea what that means or how to do it. I have done everything I am supposed to do, but still, I'm stuck.

I am sad because I really think now that there is no karma bus. Or if there was, it seems to have gotten confused and ran me over! I'm like WTH did I do to deserve this? Why are they happy and I'm not???

You are right ManBearDivorce, there is more to life and generally I'm ok with my new path and have been enjoying my new freedom with my children. Though every now and then the sadness and anger comes and I have to let it out. Whereas I used to text ex questions when I felt like this I now rant to a few of my closest female friends.

I did a reiki course last weekend and I think I'm having an emotional clear out from that. Whilst this is necessary and good for my healing it is depressing!

Feeling Consumed - I guess we will just have to accept that our ex's are so broken that they are not ever going to experience true happiness as they are not able to look inside themselves and do the work necessary to become decent human beings.

We on the other hand have a wonderful and colourful life ahead of us! :)

I think healing/growing is a cycle...a roller coaster of emotions. The cycles become further apart and less intense over time.

I get it. Every now and then I look at my ecstatic ex and how he has "found his soulmate" yet devastated everyone around him. It doesn't make sense to me, but I no longer wish for karma. I just shake my head and move along in my life.