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User Topic: Post A Health Issues
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Member # 31558
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, July 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I know I'm not the only one here who lost too much weight, had heart palpitations and all kinds of health other issues after DD but what about as time progressed? I was one of the unlucky ones who has had a long dragged out post DD drama while waiting for WH to get sober. I definitely have stress symptoms now, even though things seem to be getting better with WH. He's actually showing what looks like real remorse. Meanwhile, I still struggle with insomnia, migraines, anxiety, fatigue... I just got back blood tests from my doctor. Highlighted with fluorescent lighter, she writes, "your hormonal expression is the lowest I've ever seen." Does anyone know what it means? I just got the letter, called the doctor and am waiting to hear back. I know some people felt they were kicked into menopause. Anyone else have similar experiences?

Me: BW a youthful 51
Him: alcoholic, sober now, WH 58
Married 21 years
Two sons, 18 & 19 years old
DD? He's still keeping secrets and only admits to what I have indisputable
evidence of... the $2000 earrings he bought her for x-mas.

Posts: 1585 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: California
♂ 26970
Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, July 23rd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

.. 4+ years out and still dealing with the heart clinic, treadmills, blood tests..

..still feeling stressed, still fighting mind-movies, still saddened beyond measure.. aka 'feel like crap'

..hoping for recovery if that is possible after such a marrital meltdown??

..on the other hand, my hormones seem to be OK!


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 70
Her 66
Married 45 yrs (together 49)
18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer.
. died from a brain tumor@57

Posts: 4942 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Ontario Canada
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Member # 38763
Default  Posted: 12:36 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our issues were long and very drama much stress for so long I evenTually ended up bedridden for almost two years. I was depressed out of my mind, sleeping round the clock, in massive pain, riddled with anxiety, drugged (legally) to the gills, guilt ridden, shamed and hurt...embarrassed by how my body was betraying me. I actually tested out as diabetic even though I'd never been pre-diabetic nor did I ever test as diabetic again. My doc said stress can do that?! I ran fevers constantly, had no memory, was confused, stuttering....a bunch of weird stuff. I still suffer with some of it but I've learned how to manage most of it much better but when he gets up to his crap, it all starts up again. I didn't realize the source for a lot of mine because it was so long term. I went from my exH who was very emotionally abusive (I was with him 17 years total) to my current H who was much much worse ( we have been together over 11 years) without pause and with ever worsening situations...I didn't understand what was happening. I guess I feel pretty dumb for not getting it much sooner.

Me: 44 BS
Him: 40 FWS
Ow: 47 head case, no obs
5 DD's: 23, 20, 19, 17, 12
Last D-day: August 2012 with lots of very blurry lines.

Posts: 360 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington State
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 2:04 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm on AD's but the thing that really pisses is, I had no sign of menopause but I stopped having periods after DD. It's been almost 4yrs and they never came back. Stupid fucker I feel like he stole something from me and.I wasn't at the age to even be menopausal.
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5738 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
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Member # 34041
Default  Posted: 3:59 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I became so dehydrated after d day, I ended up five days later from laying and crying with a pulmonary embolism. In er with nurse saying don't move u could die, in front of my then 12 year old. Who then informed wh, an She heard him say he had cheated an with a hooker ans he did this to me. Turns out she came home early an overheard. I was hospitalized several times I've ten days each after this fiasco. The blood thinners caused havoc and when I would trigger I would bleed internally somewhere, sometimes the whites of my eyes, sometimes the pressure of cutting a vegetable. He screwed the pooch. Our child told him if w divicore she will never leave me. Awful.

[This message edited by PricklePatch at 4:02 AM, July 24th (Wednesday)]

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Posts: 1604 | Registered: Nov 2011
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Default  Posted: 5:25 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had horrible stress and depression right after DD. At about the one year mark I suffered from sever abdominal pain that the doctor never could figure out. And at a year and a half I discovered an enlarged lymph node that was diagnosed as Hodgkin's lymphoma, on my 41st birthday no less. I started chemo therapy yesterday. There are some doctors that believe that extended periods of extreme stress can exacerbate the cancer triggering a more rapid onset. So in the next few months I can expect nausea,vomiting, hair loss, weight gain,periods of extreme fatigue, you know all the fun stuff associated with chemotherapy. While I can't directly attribute this to his cheating I find the time frame interesting.

[This message edited by missyb32641 at 5:28 AM, July 24th (Wednesday)]

ME: BS 43
Him FWH 45
Married 20 years together 22 at the time.
Working thru R.

Posts: 277 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Florida
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