Wow, that is a lot to deal with, wounded. I am so sorry you are here. You are already sounding strong by getting the house and car in your name and throwing him out. I can't believe you gave him a lie detector test too - you are amazing!
Have you looked in the healing library in the upper left hand corner of this website? Start there and read all you can.
There is a lot to process about the whys and it takes quite a while.
Right now, you need to focus on taking care of yourself: making sure you are getting enough water, nutrition and sleep.
Are you seeing a counselor? Have you considered MC (=marriage counseling)?
You may also want to post in our "Just Found Out" forum since your discovery was so recent.
Hugs to you, wounded:
Post often - you will find healing here.