Back on May 25 when I got a look at WH's phone, I copied down several phone numbers. That was how I found out there had been more than 1 hooker that he previously admitted to. I also turned up a phone number for a woman who worked for a legitimate company and that one confused me. I ended up giving the benefit of the doubt on that one, never asked him about it, decided it could have been a simple telephone solicitation for what they sell.
I have access to the cell phone bill now, and it arrived today. Turned up two calls TO that same woman. So, I had to confront him and ask who she is.
Sigh, apparently he met this woman 3+ years ago when he was out walking our dogs, they ended up having coffee together a couple of times, she was allegedly interested in getting a puppy from us. He says he ascertained fairly quickly that she wasn't an appropriate home for one of our puppies but she continued to call him now and then to ask about litter plans. The whole story smells bad. He says nothing was going on, she has a bf, they were just acquaintances. An acquaintance that I knew NOTHING about. He says that he told her NC about 3 weeks ago, that he was having marital trouble and he didn't want to be distracted. How was he distracted by an acquaintance with whom he swears nothing was going on?? He cried and sobbed that he doesn't want anything to screw this up. I said the only thing screwing this up is you.
Like I said, the whole story just doesn't pass the smell test.
trust your gut..always. yes, his story does stink to me.
he says he met her 3 years ago? why is he still in contact with her? and so they kept in contact so that she could find out about the litter plans since she was not going to take the puppies? why does she care about the puppies if she is not going to take them?
and she knows he is married, so why keep in touch or continue to be friendly with a married man....to talk about puppies you are not going to take?
and if she wasnt going to take the puppies, why do the call logs show that he called her?
i think he is lying, and got busted...again. and because you told him you think he is full of crap, he cries and sobs.
but you are strong...i can read it in your post. you already know that this does not pass the smell test.
so dont let it. trust your gut....
hugs to you lonely.
for instance he said that she only calls from time to time about litters, but you said you saw 2 calls from him to her last month, unless you have a litter on the way, tell him to explain those calls, on the spot.
When I did that with my H and I told him why his answers made no sense, I gave him the out of telling me what I knew as the truth. I think thats important, rather than leaving it opened ended "tell me what really happened" Say I know you have been sleeping with this woman, pick the worst thing you can think of as the answer then if he didn't sleep with her, he'll be super anxious to tell you no and why, if he did, he may see this as a way to just say yes and get it out. See what I mean if he doesn't have to say the actual words I think that makes it easier for them. Once you get to the truth you can talk with more detail imo.
I hate this shit.