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laney57 posted 7/24/2013 08:22 AM

Good Morning All...
When will I ever learn? I can't be the wife. It hurts me to see someone I love so deeply hurting (of course, not because of me or our family). Anyways, I always feel empathy and this emotionally unavailable boy feels nothing but for himself. I tried and wanted to reach out and BAM I leave crying to "my room".
Today is a new day, no more bones!
Feel better just writing it. We do not deserve this!

TrustedHer posted 7/24/2013 14:25 PM

(((laney)))

It gets better. But it takes time.

laney57 posted 7/24/2013 19:40 PM

Thank you Trust,
That is what I needed to hear tonight. I know it, just needed a bump.
Thank you!

dmari posted 7/24/2013 21:00 PM

It hurts me to see someone I love so deeply hurting ... Anyways, I always feel empathy and this emotionally unavailable boy feels nothing but for himself. I could have written this early after dday. So I can tell you that detachment does happen. In the beginning, it was a constant conscious effort to remind myself that I am not his "wife" or "mommy". He betrayed our marriage but here I was trying to help him. WTF??? All he cared about was himself. Continue to remind yourself to put YOUR feelings first. Take care of YOU. Let him figure out his own shit. Hugs and support, dmari

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