R has been going pretty well. We had a second Dday in April. This time around I can truly see remorse.
In may I went on a business trip with him and he started getting strange medical symptoms. So he has been in a complete panic about maybe having stds. He has been checked and does not. The symptoms are vague. Back pain, headache, tingling, etc.
Our sex life came to a hault as he has become deathly afraid to give me something. This has put a real damper on things. We discussed this at mc and wh says by mid August (4 month mark) he will get retested and he thinks be able to accept the negative results.
Wh went to his regular internist yesterday for her to check and make sure he is ok (ie not cancer, etc). His blood pressure was very high And he has acid reflux. Between these two it explains all symptoms except his night sweats.
He is an elite athlete but has gained fifteen pounds this year and has been working out an hour a day as opposed to several. I mention this because the doctor seems to think this is all stress induced. It may be but the weight gain could be as well. I do trust her though as she is a good doctor.
Wh has been truly tortured by his actions and has been a wreck. Doctor told him that she wants him to take eight weeks to get blood pressure down. If he doesn't she will put him on medicine. She also said he may need anti depressant.
Here is the part that is bothering me....it feels like he is saying that he needs to not be stressed. I asked if that meant no talk about As. He said no. But I have this strange feeling this will be used to avoid upsetting conversations. He just found out yesterday so I will see how this week goes. I will talk in mc about it next week. I am just curious to hear people's thoughts on this one.