My family is the most screwed up, dysfunctional family I have ever known. It's gotten bad enough that I have distanced myself from all of them and only speak to a few.
In the past year there has been some major family drama. I don't really want to go into details on here but it's huge enough that it has split our family.
My brother and sisters have always been very distant with me. I tried to have a relationship with them but it was very one sided. They've never seemed too interested in being a part of my life.
These are all half siblings. My only full blood sibling passed away at birth.
Having dealt with major life threatening health issues, the divorce and the fall out of my family; a few months ago I decided it was time to get rid of all the negativity in my life. It's for my own good and my health. I just can't deal with it any longer.
So I decided if they weren't really a part of my life then they weren't going to be in my life. I don't need family who want to be my family when it's convenient for them.
So out of the blue I get a message on Facebook from one of my sisters. She wants to know what caused my brother's death. She didn't say "our brother". It was "your brother".
Turns out she is pregnant and there was some problems with the baby. That's why she was asking about my brother.
I don't really care that she didn't tell me about being pregnant. Over the years I have become used to not knowing what's going on in their lives.
What stood out to me is that they see me as a half sibling. It's never been like that for me. They are my brother and sisters. There is no half. They are family.
I don't think they see it that way and it comes out when she said,"your brother".
Just a few months ago I was talking to my aunt and I voiced my concerns over how they(my siblings) were treating me. It's like I am an outsider looking in. I'm just the half sister.
Any way, think I finally get it and it doesn't bother me. I'm happy with my life and that's all that matters.