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Topic: Colleague "My gf said.." Me:"Hang on-you're Married! A gf?!"
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MrsDoubtfire
♀ 24786
Member # 24786 |  Posted: 10:06 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 |     |
Talking to a work colleague today and this was the conversation we had!
*talking about inane stuff then he says*
"My gf said to me last night..."
Me (interrupting) GF? Hang about... you're M so how can you have a gf?
Him: Well, she's not my gf... she's my mistress!
Me: Well I think that is disgusting and you're out of order having an A so whatever your 'girlfriend' said to you last night I don't want to hear it. End of!
Him: I was in the army for 35 years and when I was away my W lived as a single woman as she got used to me not being there (justification). The army expects you to be and act like a certain type of person and that person is not conducive to married life (excuse) so when I came home we got on each other nerves (projection!)
Wife decided after I left the army it wasn't working so wanted to S for a while to see if we could have some space to work on the M (odd)although she wanted to stay in contact...I guess to work on stuff (you guess??!!)
I moved out and my daughter's bf's mother was in a similar situation to me and one thing led to another and I spent more time with her than my W and started to feel attracted to her and we sort of got together... there was nothing I could do. What else could I have done in that situation?
Me: Divorce your f***ing wife and THEN start another relationship! End of story!!
I then left...
Harsh? Maybe!
Do I care? Not one bit!
I stand by my morals- he should have divorced his wife as it sounded like she was hoping to resolve their issues but he just jumped into another woman's bed instead.
What do you think?
BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†
Posts: 1622 | Registered: Jul 2009 |
painpaingoaway
♀ 27196
Member # 27196 | | Posted: 10:12 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
I think you are my hero!
You go girl! Give um hell!
Next time you see him you might want to add, "don't ever again speak to me of your 'girlfriend', I find your behavior repulsive."
Me, BS, 58
Him, WS 61
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
Posts: 7192 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South |
doesitgetbetter
♀ 18429
Member # 18429 | | Posted: 10:56 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
EXCELLENT!!!! My only wish.... you didn't listen to that drivel he had to say about his "excuses", or let him know that that's all a bunch of bull that he feeds himself at night so he can sleep and he's just a broken sad little man who will never find happiness outside of himself. Still, SUPER glad you told him off no matter what. :-)
DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - WS
Us - working on R - again
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
D-day 2 July 4, 2015, turns out he is a SAWH, status, working harder than ever before, trying to fix something we thought we already had. It's
Posts: 4463 | Registered: Feb 2008 |
kmbr
♀ 10550
Member # 10550 | | Posted: 10:59 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
You're awesome.
Posts: 574 | Registered: Apr 2006 |
KeepCalm_CarryOn
♀ 33374
Member # 33374 | | Posted: 11:02 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Bravo!!!
You are not dealing with rational people or situations. Normal thought processes won't work...story of my life.
Me- BW, 30
Him- fWh, 36
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August 2013
Posts: 2156 | Registered: Sep 2011 |
MylarPineapples
♀ 39570
Member # 39570 | | Posted: 11:17 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Wow! It is shocking to me that someone would so casually admit to having a mistress, like it's just not really a big deal. LOVE your response!!!
Me: BS, Him: WH
8/08: EA with former neighbor (OW#1)
1/13/13: EA/Sexting with Coworker#1 (OW#2)
6/16/13: Sexting with Coworker#2 (OW#3)
Reconciling
Posts: 156 | Registered: Jun 2013 |
SisterMilkshake
♀ 30024
Member # 30024 |  Posted: 11:51 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Bravissimo! If I knew how to post Orson Welles clapping his hands, I would.
I don't feel it would really make a difference to the adulterers, but it would be nice if everyone would respond as you did when one finds out a co-worker, friend, family member, whatever is committing adultery.
My former dear friend of over 25 years just told me I was "judgmental" when I called her out on her adultery. You see, they were different and special, it was true love, dontcha know. 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 13036 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA |
tushnurse
♀ 21101
Member # 21101 | | Posted: 11:59 AM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Awesome Job.
What a self rightous ass.
Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 16 & 18
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Posts: 12953 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis |
crazyblindsided
♀ 35215
Member # 35215 | | Posted: 12:52 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
You are Goooooood!!! 
BS/FWS (me):43 Madhatter
WS/BS:46 Serial Cheater
Together 20 years, Married 15
DD(13) DS(10)
DDay(s) Too many to count
False R 7/11/14 Same OW2
"Never seek validation from those who are unworthy."
Posts: 3963 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California |
JessicaFL127
♀ 26864
Member # 26864 | | Posted: 2:16 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Here ya go, Sister.
 
[This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 2:17 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)]
BW,33
divorced for 7 years
Happily remarried to a much better choice. :D
mom to two awesome boys,12 and 10
"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC
Posts: 1283 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Missouri |
SisterMilkshake
♀ 30024
Member # 30024 | | Posted: 2:19 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Thanks, Jessica. 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Posts: 13036 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA |
solus sto
♀ 30989
Member # 30989 | | Posted: 2:46 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013 | |
Masterful dealings with a douchebag. Well done.
BS-me, 55; WX-irrelevant
Divorced after an eternity
"So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tenn
Posts: 15231 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest |
MrsDoubtfire
♀ 24786
Member # 24786 | | Posted: 1:57 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Wow! It is shocking to me that someone would so casually admit to having a mistress, like it's just not really a big deal. LOVE your response!!!
This is what I thought too. When he said she's not actually my Gf she's my mistress he looked so smug my stomach turned over which is why I cut him off! I'm still wondering how I managed to avoid slapping him just for that smug look!
Needless to say I shall not entertain this a-hole should he mention the ow again! I think he gets the message loud and clear
BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†
Posts: 1622 | Registered: Jul 2009 |
TrulySad
♀ 39652
Member # 39652 | | Posted: 6:51 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013 | |
Thank you....
I've been a BW and a BGF. Dealt with adultery, physical and emotional abuse, and sex addiction.
Today, I'm a 49 year old woman who's trying to be happy and live my life with a loving heart and hope 😊
Posts: 947 | Registered: Jun 2013 |
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