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MrsDoubtfire (original poster member #24786) posted at 4:06 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Talking to a work colleague today and this was the conversation we had!
*talking about inane stuff then he says*
"My gf said to me last night..."
Me (interrupting) GF? Hang about... you're M so how can you have a gf?
Him: Well, she's not my gf... she's my mistress!
Me: Well I think that is disgusting and you're out of order having an A so whatever your 'girlfriend' said to you last night I don't want to hear it. End of!
Him: I was in the army for 35 years and when I was away my W lived as a single woman as she got used to me not being there (justification). The army expects you to be and act like a certain type of person and that person is not conducive to married life (excuse) so when I came home we got on each other nerves (projection!)
Wife decided after I left the army it wasn't working so wanted to S for a while to see if we could have some space to work on the M (odd)although she wanted to stay in contact...I guess to work on stuff (you guess??!!)
I moved out and my daughter's bf's mother was in a similar situation to me and one thing led to another and I spent more time with her than my W and started to feel attracted to her and we sort of got together... there was nothing I could do. What else could I have done in that situation?
Me: Divorce your f***ing wife and THEN start another relationship! End of story!!
I then left...
Harsh? Maybe!
Do I care? Not one bit!
I stand by my morals- he should have divorced his wife as it sounded like she was hoping to resolve their issues but he just jumped into another woman's bed instead.
What do you think?
BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 4:12 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
I think you are my hero!
You go girl! Give um hell!
Next time you see him you might want to add, "don't ever again speak to me of your 'girlfriend', I find your behavior repulsive."
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
doesitgetbetter ( member #18429) posted at 4:56 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
EXCELLENT!!!! My only wish.... you didn't listen to that drivel he had to say about his "excuses", or let him know that that's all a bunch of bull that he feeds himself at night so he can sleep and he's just a broken sad little man who will never find happiness outside of himself. Still, SUPER glad you told him off no matter what. :-)
DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - WS
Us - working on R - again
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
D-day 2 July 4, 2015, turns out he is a SAWH, status, working harder than before
May 22, 2019 -slip/relapse. He forgot he has to work forever
kmbr ( member #10550) posted at 4:59 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
KeepCalm_CarryOn ( member #33374) posted at 5:02 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
You are not dealing with rational people or situations. Normal thought processes won't work...story of my life.
Me- BW, 30
Him- fWh, 36
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August 2013
MylarPineapples ( member #39570) posted at 5:17 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Wow! It is shocking to me that someone would so casually admit to having a mistress, like it's just not really a big deal. LOVE your response!!!
Me: BS, Him: WH
8/08: EA with former neighbor (OW#1)
1/13/13: EA/Sexting with Coworker#1 (OW#2)
6/16/13: Sexting with Coworker#2 (OW#3)
Reconciling
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 5:51 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Bravissimo! If I knew how to post Orson Welles clapping his hands, I would.
I don't feel it would really make a difference to the adulterers, but it would be nice if everyone would respond as you did when one finds out a co-worker, friend, family member, whatever is committing adultery.
My former dear friend of over 25 years just told me I was "judgmental" when I called her out on her adultery. You see, they were different and special, it was true love, dontcha know. 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 5:59 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Awesome Job.
What a self rightous ass.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:52 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
You are Goooooood!!! 
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
JessicaFL127 ( member #26864) posted at 8:16 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Here ya go, Sister.
[This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 2:17 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)]
BW,35
divorced for 10 years
Happily remarried to a much better choice.:D
mom to two awesome boys,14 and 13
And now to a beautiful baby girl, 1 <3
"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 8:19 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Thanks, Jessica. 
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 8:46 PM on Wednesday, July 24th, 2013
Masterful dealings with a douchebag. Well done.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
MrsDoubtfire (original poster member #24786) posted at 7:57 AM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Wow! It is shocking to me that someone would so casually admit to having a mistress, like it's just not really a big deal. LOVE your response!!!
This is what I thought too. When he said she's not actually my Gf she's my mistress he looked so smug my stomach turned over which is why I cut him off! I'm still wondering how I managed to avoid slapping him just for that smug look!
Needless to say I shall not entertain this a-hole should he mention the ow again! I think he gets the message loud and clear
BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now become†
TrulySad ( member #39652) posted at 12:51 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Me : no longer a BW or BGF. Starting over!
Them : in the past, where they can stay.
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