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MrsDoubtfire posted 7/24/2013 10:06 AM

Talking to a work colleague today and this was the conversation we had!

*talking about inane stuff then he says*

"My gf said to me last night..."

Me (interrupting) GF? Hang about... you're M so how can you have a gf?

Him: Well, she's not my gf... she's my mistress!

Me: Well I think that is disgusting and you're out of order having an A so whatever your 'girlfriend' said to you last night I don't want to hear it. End of!

Him: I was in the army for 35 years and when I was away my W lived as a single woman as she got used to me not being there (justification). The army expects you to be and act like a certain type of person and that person is not conducive to married life (excuse) so when I came home we got on each other nerves (projection!)

Wife decided after I left the army it wasn't working so wanted to S for a while to see if we could have some space to work on the M (odd)although she wanted to stay in contact...I guess to work on stuff (you guess??!!)

I moved out and my daughter's bf's mother was in a similar situation to me and one thing led to another and I spent more time with her than my W and started to feel attracted to her and we sort of got together... there was nothing I could do. What else could I have done in that situation?

Me: Divorce your f***ing wife and THEN start another relationship! End of story!!

I then left...

Harsh? Maybe!

Do I care? Not one bit!

I stand by my morals- he should have divorced his wife as it sounded like she was hoping to resolve their issues but he just jumped into another woman's bed instead.

What do you think?

painpaingoaway posted 7/24/2013 10:12 AM

I think you are my hero!

You go girl! Give um hell!

Next time you see him you might want to add, "don't ever again speak to me of your 'girlfriend', I find your behavior repulsive."

doesitgetbetter posted 7/24/2013 10:56 AM

EXCELLENT!!!! My only wish.... you didn't listen to that drivel he had to say about his "excuses", or let him know that that's all a bunch of bull that he feeds himself at night so he can sleep and he's just a broken sad little man who will never find happiness outside of himself. Still, SUPER glad you told him off no matter what. :-)

kmbr posted 7/24/2013 10:59 AM

You're awesome.

KeepCalm_CarryOn posted 7/24/2013 11:02 AM

Bravo!!!

MylarPineapples posted 7/24/2013 11:17 AM

Wow! It is shocking to me that someone would so casually admit to having a mistress, like it's just not really a big deal. LOVE your response!!!

SisterMilkshake posted 7/24/2013 11:51 AM

Bravissimo! If I knew how to post Orson Welles clapping his hands, I would.

I don't feel it would really make a difference to the adulterers, but it would be nice if everyone would respond as you did when one finds out a co-worker, friend, family member, whatever is committing adultery.

My former dear friend of over 25 years just told me I was "judgmental" when I called her out on her adultery. You see, they were different and special, it was true love, dontcha know.

tushnurse posted 7/24/2013 11:59 AM

Awesome Job.
What a self rightous ass.

crazyblindsided posted 7/24/2013 12:52 PM

You are Goooooood!!!

JessicaFL127 posted 7/24/2013 14:16 PM

Here ya go, Sister.

[This message edited by JessicaFL127 at 2:17 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)]

SisterMilkshake posted 7/24/2013 14:19 PM

Thanks, Jessica.

solus sto posted 7/24/2013 14:46 PM

Masterful dealings with a douchebag. Well done.

MrsDoubtfire posted 7/25/2013 01:57 AM

Wow! It is shocking to me that someone would so casually admit to having a mistress, like it's just not really a big deal. LOVE your response!!!

This is what I thought too. When he said she's not actually my Gf she's my mistress he looked so smug my stomach turned over which is why I cut him off! I'm still wondering how I managed to avoid slapping him just for that smug look!

Needless to say I shall not entertain this a-hole should he mention the ow again! I think he gets the message loud and clear

TrulySad posted 7/25/2013 06:51 AM

Thank you....