Grrr. Marginializing. Things are going great. I'm frankly surprised at how happy we've been. But like most of you here, the rollercoaster still goes on at times.
Nothing bothers me more, hurts me more than the downplaying of how bad her actions were.
My wife is very appeasing and defensive by nature. So I do get the impulse. When we are arguing and I press her to hard, to much. But sometimes it's like a kick in the head.
My top 5:
"It was only one man."
"It was only one affair in 20 years."
"The other one was only making out and it was before we were married."
"I didn't do it like I do it with you."
"I only slept with him four times."
Grrrr. I get it. But who's benefit is she saying this for? Mine? or hers?
[This message edited by Yakamishi at 3:56 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)]