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User Topic: His Family On My Side
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Uhhhh... I just was made aware that his family members are siding with me in regards to our situation. His sister, that didn't even like me for the past 5 years, called me today with friendly conversation and said "I feel like we are in a better spot now even though this is all BS."
She is taking my son for a few days next week to bring him to STBXH and said she would call me each day that she has him. Then she mentioned she has no desire to meet OW and if my STBXH tries to introduce her, she would tell him off because it was disrespectful to me.
Everyone else has pretty much "abandoned" him, except, of course, his mother who encouraged the affair.

Not sure how to feel right now. These people literally didn't like me prior to all of this and when the affair was brought to light, they took up for me and told my STBXH it wasn't worth it. Who are these people? I feel like everyone went crazy...

Any one else have the inlaws sticking up for them? Should I be concerned?

Once a cheater, always a cheater happens when your cheater doesn't have remorse.
Regret is not remorse- know the difference!

Posts: 680 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My SIL called the last OW to defend me. Apparently their discussion got rather heated because OW messaged my H that his sister was threatening her. That being said, my SIL and I have always been close. We have kids similar ages, terrible first marriages and she is the same age as my younger sister.

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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Should I be concerned?
The only caution I would have is to watch their actions. They seem to be on the right side of things here - not supporting his actions when they are clearly wrong. That's encouraging. But I don't know that I would suddenly be trusting of them based on that alone, KWIM?

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And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, July 24th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would be a little hesitant. You said that before the A they didn't like you, now they suddenly think you're the best thing since sliced bread? Keep in mind that while they make condemn his actions for right now, he is their blood and in six months or a year they may be "over it."

My ex-ILs put up a friend about supporting me, turned out that they were milking me for information. They put up a big front that they would 'give him hell' if he did it again. Guess who congratulated him on his engaged me to OW#2?

Just be cautious.

DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid

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