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hexed posted 7/24/2013 19:58 PM

I have posted in the past about woman from TGs past that I am not particularly comfortable with.

Her kids are friends with TGs kids. She has 5 kids. TG is close to 2 of them. They are visiting our area. They are coming over to visit TG tonight. I am out of town.

I do not trust this woman as far as I can spit. She and TG were briefly romantically involved just prior to TG and I dating. He has always told me of her attempts at contact but she fishes a couple of times a year. TG sees it as harmless. I do not.

She is coming to my house tonight. My intuition is sounding alarm bells. I don't know if I'm triggering or just being jealous and untrusting. TG has given me no reason at all not to trust him. He told me. I told him point blank that this was setting off alarm bells. My DS will be there too along with this woman's two kids but I still do not like it.

I could just use some calming support b/c right now I want to call every 5 minutes!

lieshurt posted 7/24/2013 20:04 PM

What it comes down to is have to have trust in TG. That, and make sure your DS is stuck to him like glue while she is there I'm serious!!!

However, why can't they meet somewhere away from your home? couldn't they go grab some pizza or something?

persevere posted 7/24/2013 20:05 PM

I totally understand, but just focus on the security you and TG have built together. ((Hugs))

hexed posted 7/24/2013 20:12 PM

I guess TG just wanted to invite them over for a BBQ. He invites everyone over to our place. I doubt going out even ocurred to him.

nowiknow23 posted 7/24/2013 20:33 PM


lostmommy posted 7/24/2013 20:35 PM


FaithFool posted 7/24/2013 20:36 PM

Big hugs. With all the kids around I'm sure it will all be fine.

Williesmom posted 7/24/2013 21:09 PM


Be strong. Trust.

She11ybeanz posted 7/24/2013 21:46 PM


You can do this!

heartbroken_kk posted 7/24/2013 21:56 PM

Is it possible for you to focus on the friendships between the kids, and try to view her as just a vehicle, like a stinky old car, that delivers the kids? Sure the thing belches smog, has bad brakes, stains all over the seats and nicotine smears on the windows. But the kids can't decide what brings them there, they just have to go along, and it is bringing them to see their friends.

Maybe let TG know he is responsible for cleaning the oil stains off the driveway when she leaves?

wonderingbull posted 7/24/2013 22:50 PM

Calm down Hexed...

You got this and he's cool...


hexed posted 7/24/2013 22:52 PM

The thing that bugs me about this is that TGs kids aren't going to be there. They are back with their mother.

I know there will be some drinking. That always makes me worry. I know that she doesn't have good intentions.

I know that I can trust TG but drunk friends will forever make me feel yucky b/c of X.


wildbananas posted 7/25/2013 00:07 AM


caregiver9000 posted 7/25/2013 00:21 AM


You ask for hugs, you are going to get hugs, my friend.

I hope the light of day tomorrow chases these shadowy doubts away!

hexed posted 7/25/2013 06:44 AM

I'm actually a bit upset this morning about the whole thing.

I called once b/c I needed to talk to him about something. It was a bit late. He'd obviously had a few. He initiated no contact last night.

I don't feel happy at all.

confused girl posted 7/25/2013 06:50 AM

He initiated no contact with her last night??

What happened that made him take that action. Of course, I think that is a good course to follow but I assume something must have happened.

FaithFool posted 7/25/2013 06:59 AM

I think hexed is saying he didn't contact her (hexed) to say goodnight.

That is a huge issue IMO and the optics on this one are NOT good. I'm pissed for you hexed.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 7:03 AM, July 25th (Thursday)]

hexed posted 7/25/2013 07:07 AM

No - She initiated contact with him.

Long story short she fishes a couple times a year. Normally she's several states away. She is from our area and was in town visiting.

I am pissed that after making it clear that I was feeling uncomfortable he couldn't be bothered to text me last night.

Yes there were lots of people around. Unfortunately, I think all of them except my DS would be in favor of this woman and TG getting together. I don't feel happy at all.

confused girl posted 7/25/2013 07:20 AM

Hexed, I'm so sorry for the rough night.

There isn't any reason for me to say all the things running thru my head. You are saying them all to yourself already.

just hugs.............

Weatherly posted 7/25/2013 08:10 AM


I don't know what to say, except I'd be pissed as well.

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