there is no lie in when they all tell us it is the hardest thing to do. I mean we as we knew it lost our bestfriend. The person we were always there for but they were not there for us. For me I HAVE to break this chain or I will be in bondage the rest of my life for someone who does not want to be a real husband to me or man for that matter.
I have to pull away from texting him, I have to make myself do something different. Yes, in my heart I want to be there and help but in my mind I know better.
The other thing that is really hard is when they are not wanting us. The rejection is a real fustrating thing and hurts mainly because we didn't do anything but maybe yell and scream about our pain, ask questions that upset them to pull back further from us. But, that is not our fault. We should be able to express all of what we feel, because we have to go thru it not around it.
When you have a unremorseful wh it makes things that much harder to the matters of the heart but you will get through this as will I.
I am new at this and I have been doing this for 4 years now and seperated 1 year. And I am now just starting to NC.
Be strong. You are worth it!
DD 21 and DS 16
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"