Ok, I finally kicked my WH out on July 3rd when I caught him planning to meet a 20 year old after he got off work at 2am for sex, which apparently wasn't the first time. Shouldn't be suprised but I was...
Anyways, things have been weird. He is super nice most of the time but will blow up at me for stupid things all in the same conversation. He has asked me out on a "date" at the SAME time he is on a dating web site talking to another girl. He accuses me of stalking him but I am pretty sure he has tracking on my cell phone. He offers me money to help catch up bills but yells at me for sucking him dry of his money.
Anyways, there is absolutely NO chance of us getting back together, he actually asked me yesturday when we are going to start the divorce process after asking me the other day if we were "really over"
I haven't asked for CS yet but will be filing as soon as he helps me catch my car up. I know that sounds bad but I am really behind and cant catch it up myself as a waitress and can't lose my car!
I am trying to come up with some terms for the divorce papers. I have an appointment for a consult with the best attorney in town but I am looking for some advice in the meantime. What are some standard "regulations" to put into the papers? I have a few things but I have no idea where to start with all of this.
~I want there to be NO person of the opposite sex who is unrelated to be able to stay the night at his house.
~I will be asking for $600 a month CS for 3 children. I know I could get WAY more but this is all I want to help me out
~ He is supposed to have them 50% of the time right now but has been waiting as late as he possibly can to pick them up and dropping them off the night before he is supposed to. I am going to ask for 60/40 visitation... Is that fair?
~We don't have any material items to split and what we did we already split so I am not worried about that. We do have 2 dogs. He is getting one of them that I don't want to ever be rehomed so I am going to put it in the papers, something about me getting the dog back if it comes down to it being rehomed. Is that reasonable?
~All School related costs should be split evenly. How should I word that? Or should I specify what he should pay for and what I should pay for?
~My job doesnt offer insurance and since I don't have a career yet because I worked for him to go to school, I won't have an opportunity to get them insurance through a job. Should I make him responsible for providing insurance through his job or should I just buy a policy since I am asking for CS. I'm not wanting to "take him for all he has." things have been pretty civil overalll and I am really trying to keep it that way but I also don't want to leave to much for the OW and OC!
~As of right now, he lives with his mom but he has been talking about finding his own place. He mentioned the other day, something about having a friend of his move in with him to help with bills. I am hesitant because he has been telling me about a few of his new friends. He told me that a few of them jumped a guys fence to look around his property because they heard he had an elephant! He also told me that one of his new friends broke his hand because he punched a dog in the face!!! Now I am super nervous about all the new "friends" he has been hanging out with! I don't want him to have one of these people move into his house and be around our children! WH is 27 and the people he is hanging out with are 20-23. When WH gets around other immature guys he acts like a kid and ignores his responsibilities. Can I put something in the paper about no roomates?? I know it would apply to me too, which kind of stinks but I am seriously worried about these friends of his!! There is also the possibility of the roomate bringing girls home and parties since he is only early 20s and since he will be paying rent, how is WH (who would probably help plan these events) going to tell him no?
What else should I highlight in these papers? I really hate having to deal with all of this! Its so stressful!