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User Topic: so tired of the worry.....
staying hopefull
♀ 5748
Member # 5748
Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H did some questionable things while out of town last week...went to a strip club, took a picture of his penis, text friends about "stippers" etc...He said the picture was for himself and no one else..

He is apologizing profusely, texting me he loves me constantly, saying he would never do anything to hurt our family, he loves us so much...etc..etc...however I am just SO sick and tired of worrying about if he is cheating, if he has secret online profiles etc...

All of this is dredging up feelings I had 9 years ago. I am just TIRED of it! I am tired of this sick feeling in my stomach, I just want it to go away...

Sometimes I day dream about just leaving him so the worry would be over, but I just can't do that to my family...It really isn't that bad I guess...its just been a tough week...


Me - BS (40) FWH (43)
Two children
Together 20 years, married 15 years
Reconcilied for 9 years!

Posts: 1031 | Registered: Nov 2004
sunflowergirl30
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Default  Posted: 10:31 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im tired of it too. I tell myself "it isnt that bad too" but it is. It is.


Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.
Wh-lying, cheater now 37
Me- crazy bs now 38
2 teens and a dog
Mow- married old whore now 50


1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010


Posts: 1132 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((staying hopefull)))) I just have to ask - why would he need a picture of his penis for himself? It's not like he's ever "away" from it. He can look down at any time and see it.

Sending you so much strength, honey.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


Posts: 26516 | Registered: Aug 2011
staying hopefull
♀ 5748
Member # 5748
Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree...I said the same thing when I found the picture. Why the hell did you have to take a picture of it...couldn't you just look down!
He swears he didn't post it online..didn't send it to anyone etc...but I still just don't get it.
I knew he went to a strip club with some friends while on this business trip and that really didn't bother me until I found that picture on his phone. His behavior while on that trip just disgusts me.
Its just dredging up all kinds of horrible feelings. I don't like feeling like this.
He is being SO nice and SO apologetic...I guess I should be thankful for that.


Me - BS (40) FWH (43)
Two children
Together 20 years, married 15 years
Reconcilied for 9 years!

Posts: 1031 | Registered: Nov 2004
Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That seems really, really strange to me. I would never take a picture of myself like that unless I intended to show someone else. There's just no point to it. What was his explanation? Is there any way you can check his text messages to verify that?


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

Posts: 1345 | Registered: Jul 2013
staying hopefull
♀ 5748
Member # 5748
Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree! Finding that pic of his erect penis is what really took me over the edge. I have always been open to watching some porn occasionally or even didn't care about the occasional visit to a strip club when at these conventions...but to me taking a picture of your private areas takes it over the top and really puts a lot of doubt in my mind.
He says he feels awful about it and will never do it again...but its hard for me not to wonder if he was up to something else...

[This message edited by staying hopefull at 1:39 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


Me - BS (40) FWH (43)
Two children
Together 20 years, married 15 years
Reconcilied for 9 years!

Posts: 1031 | Registered: Nov 2004
wanttogoforward
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you check to see if he sent the picture? Some cell phone plans let you look online to see usage and ones like Sprint tell you how many pics have been sent.... If you find a pic you can even call to see... if you are the account holder they will tell you the time and day it was sent... maybe not to who it was sent but then that doesn't likely matter if he sent it at all!

Posts: 1190 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still lost
staying hopefull
♀ 5748
Member # 5748
Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His phone is a company phone so I do not have access to any records.
I searched his phone to see if I could tell if he sent the picture and couldn't find anything.
I wish I could believe him that it wasn't sent to anyone..but its just so hard to believe that someone would do that just to "see what it looked like" Look in the freakin mirror...dumbass..

[This message edited by staying hopefull at 1:54 PM, July 25th (Thursday)]


Me - BS (40) FWH (43)
Two children
Together 20 years, married 15 years
Reconcilied for 9 years!

Posts: 1031 | Registered: Nov 2004
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, July 25th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((SH)))) I'm so sorry you're awash in those feelings again. I truly hope his actions start matching his words.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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