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ArableSands (original poster member #39830) posted at 9:37 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Our first session, for either and both of us. Worthy of note is that neither of us are the type of personalities that like reaching out to professionals for help with personal issues.
Our marriage is on the verge of collapse because of my wife's betrayal, but in the one short hour we were in counselling, (and this is the first session, so it was mostly information gathering) I think we both came away with a sense of hope and clarity.
The pain is still there. But the confusion has ebbed. Even a little, it's a gift.
If you're resisting MC, don't. I thought it would be a waste of time, and it most definitely wasn't.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 9:38 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
So pleased to read this, Arable! I would also mention that if the first MC you try isn't the right "fit," don't give up. Seek one that works for both of you.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 11:12 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Great! That's encouraging.
(Finally10 and I are beginning to look for a MC that might work for us. His IC is going wells and he feels ready.)
I know it might take several tries. Sounds like you may have lucked out.
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
SuperDuperWonderboy ( member #34716) posted at 2:15 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.
BFFGone ( member #38263) posted at 2:19 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
So happy for you!
It's sometimes painful work in MC as time goes on, but it is worth it!
If you are not in IC, I would recommend it alongside MC. Clarity for your journey and your feelings outside of the two of you together is important.
Blessings to you!
xoxox
I choose to thrive. I choose to be happy.
That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger...but damn, aren't I strong enough yet???
SuperDuperWonderboy ( member #34716) posted at 2:23 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
I absolutely agree with BFFGone.
IC was a life-saver for me and our marriage.
My Friends call me Wonderboy--That's Mr. SuperduperWonderboy to you Tred.
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