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BeyondBreaking (original poster member #38020) posted at 10:52 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
So I am officially getting married in 16 days!
My DD's dad (ex who cheated, was physically abusive, and finally sealed out break-up by leaving DD home alone at 10 months old so he could go to the bar) is not thrilled about this. He hasn't really said anything up til now- not created problems at all, but we just haven't spoken a lot about it.
Then, yesterday while I was at work, I get a text from him: "Do you have any idea what it is like feeling like the love of your life is waking up next to the wrong man every morning and there is nothing you can do about it? Don't get me wrong, I want you to be happy, but I just don't understand why you can't give me another chance."
My response?
"I'm sorry you feel that way. We haven't been together for 4 years now."
Him: "Do you have any idea what it is like not seeing DD for 12 days in a row?"
Me: "You know, I have a really hard time having sympathy for you. You don't see DD for 12 days in a row because we aren't together anymore. The reason we aren't together anymore is because of your lies, your cheating, your assaultive behavior, and your terrible parenting. You could have chosen differently, but you did not. The fact that you don't see your DD but every other weekend is a result of YOU. I, however, miss seeing my child every other weekend despite the fact that I tried my hardest to make our relationship work even when you were insistant on making it fail. And who I really feel sympathy for is DD, because SHE is the one who is shipped off from one home to another and will continue to have that happen to her until she is 18 years old. I can't imagine my world being rocked like that at four and a half, much less at less than a year old when all of this ridiculousness started. The fact that I have to suffer because of your actions is what is making me, even now, have a hard time feeling any sympathy for your complaints. Because some of us are suffering and will continue to do so, even though we had no choice in the matter. You did."
Silence.
Peace.
:)
I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.
"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 10:56 PM on Thursday, July 25th, 2013
Your response ROCKED! 
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
momentintime ( member #16394) posted at 12:44 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
Dead on, he deserved your vent.
BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
Mommato4 ( member #15906) posted at 1:14 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
That was great! 
BS-me 34
XH-doesn't matter
4 kids
Divorced-7/25/2008
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 1:23 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
Love this. Good job, and congrats.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 4:32 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 4:34 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
(And congratulations on your upcoming nuptuals!!)
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:37 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
What a selfish whiny ass.
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 9:15 AM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.
You were very restrained.
Do you have any idea what it is like feeling like the love of your life is waking up next to the wrong man every morning and there is nothing you can do about it?
I seriouly can't believe he said that, what a jerk. I would have replied, yes I do know how that feels, you did that to me. With a few other choice words 
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
anewday78 ( member #39357) posted at 12:39 PM on Friday, July 26th, 2013
Congrats on getting hitched! Your response was awesome. I bet it felt great to put that out there and even better when he didn't respond. I mean, how can he argue with what you wrote? Good for you!
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