I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.
So I am officially getting married in 16 days!
My DD's dad (ex who cheated, was physically abusive, and finally sealed out break-up by leaving DD home alone at 10 months old so he could go to the bar) is not thrilled about this. He hasn't really said anything up til now- not created problems at all, but we just haven't spoken a lot about it.
Then, yesterday while I was at work, I get a text from him: "Do you have any idea what it is like feeling like the love of your life is waking up next to the wrong man every morning and there is nothing you can do about it? Don't get me wrong, I want you to be happy, but I just don't understand why you can't give me another chance."
"I'm sorry you feel that way. We haven't been together for 4 years now."
Him: "Do you have any idea what it is like not seeing DD for 12 days in a row?"
Me: "You know, I have a really hard time having sympathy for you. You don't see DD for 12 days in a row because we aren't together anymore. The reason we aren't together anymore is because of your lies, your cheating, your assaultive behavior, and your terrible parenting. You could have chosen differently, but you did not. The fact that you don't see your DD but every other weekend is a result of YOU. I, however, miss seeing my child every other weekend despite the fact that I tried my hardest to make our relationship work even when you were insistant on making it fail. And who I really feel sympathy for is DD, because SHE is the one who is shipped off from one home to another and will continue to have that happen to her until she is 18 years old. I can't imagine my world being rocked like that at four and a half, much less at less than a year old when all of this ridiculousness started. The fact that I have to suffer because of your actions is what is making me, even now, have a hard time feeling any sympathy for your complaints. Because some of us are suffering and will continue to do so, even though we had no choice in the matter. You did."
At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."