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gypsybird87 posted 7/25/2013 17:00 PM

Hi everyone,

I never knew my XWH was a narcissist until I started reading on this site. I'd like to learn more and there are many books on this topic.

Can you recommend one that will help me understand and deal with the aftermath/pain of having been in a relationship with a narc? So many of the books seem to be geared toward "living with" one, or being in a relationship with one. For me that no longer applies... he's long gone, but the wounds he inflicted are still here.

Ideas?

Thanks.

brokenandconfuse posted 8/16/2013 09:09 AM

"Why is it always about you"

Catwoman posted 8/16/2013 10:02 AM

"Splitting."

Cat

Jer2911 posted 9/2/2013 23:21 PM

I had a counselor recommend "The Sociopath Next Door" recently. I haven't been able to purchase it yet though.

phmh posted 9/3/2013 18:52 PM

Though not specifically about breaking up with an NPD, "Getting Past Your Breakup" helped me.

I found it helpful to learn a ton about NPD/ASPD as it helped me realize that what happened in my marriage wasn't my fault and there was nothing I could have done to achieve a different outcome.

"The Sociopath Next Door" was helpful, as were "Emotional Vampires" and "Narcissistic Lovers."

When a specific passage really spoke to me, I wrote it down (on paper in a journal, as well as saved as an e-mail draft) so I could reread as necessary to help me through this.

I know there were more books that were helpful -- I'll try to remember to check the list of books I read and repost. But I found a bunch of them by seeing other recommended books on amazon.

You can get these at your library if funds are low.

Good luck recovering -- it can be done!!!

PhoenixRisen posted 9/4/2013 14:43 PM

Narcissistic Lovers: How to Cope, Recover and Move On Paperback

you can read the first chapter on Amazon
http://www.amazon.com/Narcissistic-Lovers-Cope-Recover-Move/dp/0882822837#reader_0882822837

gypsybird87 posted 9/22/2013 00:56 AM

I just happened to look in here and saw these responses. Thanks! When no one responded initially I just continued looking on amazon until I found "Narcissistic Lovers". Ordered it immediately and it has been a tremendous help. I already had "Getting Past Your Breakup" and its great too.

I will check out the titles you guys have mentioned.

Thanks again!

ChoosingHope posted 9/22/2013 23:03 PM

Splitting was the most helpful book to me.

I also liked the Narcissist Next Door. I'm now reading The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists. It's good.