H was NOT looking at this stuff for me. I'm not even sure what to think of this. It was the equivalent to the SEARS catalog.
Bring on the opinions, because I'm stumped.
What qualifies as "porn" varies for people. Instead of dealing with the semantics, I would look to the outcomes. A japanese woman dressed in a schoolgirl outfit might be a huge turn on for some guys, but not for me, for example.
That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger...but damn, aren't I strong enough yet???
Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.
Porn was one of the things. My feeling is; if I have to police him, I can't trust him. If I can't trust him, I don't want him.
He knows that. I ended up falling asleep before he got in the house.
Guess this discussion has been postponed until tonight.
But let's look at it for what it is...you found 20 views of women in panties/thongs and see thru bras. A see thru bra is different from a regular bra..of course..because it shows everything.
While it may not be porn...it shows an interest in looking at women who are barely dressed. Some wives are ok with that..some aren't..especially after an affair..and that is ok too. YMMV.
Was porn a "can not?" If so,then tell him how this makes you feel and see what he has to say.
It's not porn..IMO...but it does show an interest..and it is a slippery slope into actual porn.
[This message edited by confused615 at 5:20 AM, July 26th (Friday)]
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
