I don't know if I'd go so far as to call it porn.
But let's look at it for what it is...you found 20 views of women in panties/thongs and see thru bras. A see thru bra is different from a regular bra..of course..because it shows everything.
While it may not be porn...it shows an interest in looking at women who are barely dressed. Some wives are ok with that..some aren't..especially after an affair..and that is ok too. YMMV.
Was porn a "can not?" If so,then tell him how this makes you feel and see what he has to say.
It's not porn..IMO...but it does show an interest..and it is a slippery slope into actual porn.
[This message edited by confused615 at 5:20 AM, July 26th (Friday)]
M: June 2001
Status: Reconciled. Love my "new" husband!
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.