Couples dine with couples.
Families do stuff with families.
Singles hang out with singles.
It's a harsh truth : friendship is very often circumstancial.
A lot of people are not really in relationships, they are using others as mirrors. You tell me about your projects, I tell you about my similar project. We think we have a conversation. We are talking to ourselves through others.
The people who stopped including me once my life was not like theirs did me a favor. I don't want mirrors in my life. I want people who care.
5 years later it's better. I'm newly single again and I don't experiment so much of this.
I know it feels awful righ now.
There is no magical way around this. Let you relationships trim by themsleves. Don't hold on to people who won't include you. Cultivate budding friendships with people that get you and you find equally interesting. Perhaps try to meet other single parents.
Yes, friendship is mostly cicumstancial but sometimes it is a good thing. Humans are not static. We evolve and become different persons through life events. It's only normal that our relationship circle evolves when we do. We might get a lot from a relationshionship then move on once it's run its course. Sometimes it takes 10 years and sometimes just one. Then it makes space for new relationships that suit the person we've become. And life goes on.
[This message edited by burnt_toast at 8:17 PM, July 27th (Saturday)]