D-day: Christmas 2011
BW here. I read that you have asked him what he needs from you and how you can support him. In the vein of being proactive, I would really appreciate if my WH took the initiative and was proactive enough to suggest several ideas of how to take back the day. And was open to me vetoing them all. So I would appreciate that he was proactive and thinking outside of the box or usual toolkit of our relationship and patterns. Maybe you have already done that. But you could suggest something new or a favorite activity of the two of you or something in between those two. For example, If you hike, a new trail. If you like to watch films, new film. Or doing something completely new or something completely familiar. The novel seems to help me though in taking days back.
We took our first d day back by celebrating Christmas in a city that we had visited together on our honeymoon, but had never visited with our children or at the holidays. It was a combo of the old and new.
Good luck and savor that day you had today or yesterday by now. .
[This message edited by OnAnIsland at 3:40 AM, July 26th (Friday)]
D-day 2: 3/28/2013
Married for over 15 years
2 beautiful boys in elementary school
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