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tryingandfailing posted 7/25/2013 23:17 PM

Inspired by a comment I read today, people here are always talking about improving yourself, working on becoming a better person, figuring out strengths and weaknesses...

What do YOU do to work on you? Since your A, have you become more spiritual? Do you exercise? Something you do in particular that gives you time to think or helps you work through your challenges? What are your coping mechanisms when BS has a trigger?

BaxtersBFF posted 7/25/2013 23:34 PM

Honesty with self. That's really what it comes down to. And it sounds as selfish as hell...but that is what drives things now.

authenticnow posted 7/26/2013 05:28 AM

What Baxter said.

I try to 'be kinder than necessary' in all situations. I don't gossip, I appreciate the small things. I am mindful of my blessings and take nothing for granted.

I am more open to listening and really hearing my BH.

When my BH has a trigger I talk to him. I ask him if he's okay and what, if anything, can I do to help.

cinnamongurl posted 7/26/2013 06:29 AM

I try my damnedest to live as authentically as I can. I'm learning through some incredibly difficult work how to do this, undoing a lifetime of poor choices, terrible coping skills, and being honest with myself, and with others. I've been exercising, cooking, gardening, and I took a workshop in plein air pastels. (Apparently I have some hidden talents and artistic abilities I never knew about )

20WrongsVs1 posted 7/26/2013 08:32 AM

I'm still in the early days of recovery, still picking up the pieces.

I read a lot. Pre-A I read only fiction, but now I read "self-help" (for lack of better categorization) books. I'm working to become a better communicator, so I can send and receive positively. When the only tool in one's toolbox is a hammer, the whole world looks like an occasion for nails.

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