My ex MIL is making it very difficult for me to want to foster her relationship with her grandkids. I put up with her passive aggressive nonsense for 13 years, but now that I'm divorced from her son, I feel like I shouldn't be having to play her games anymore.
Since my ex moved across the country, most contact she has with our DSs will need to be through me. She lives in the same town as my parents. I try to work it out so she gets to see our boys, even though she drives me insane. I do it for them, for that relationship.
Well, she happened to run into my dad the other day. They started talking about an upcoming visit the boys are going to have to see all the grandparents. Then, out of the blue, she starts in about how her poor son worked so hard on the marriage, had to move so far away from his kids because of all the child support he has to pay, how bruised his self esteem was...blah blah blah. Her victim son. Nothing about his affair, lies, how he treated me, nothing...It's like she was talking about a totally different person. SO inappropriate. My dad told her he had no interest in discussing any of that with her, ever, and to stop. She continued on for awhile and then went on her way.
Whenever I'm around her, she is miserable and negative and extremely anxious, it's unbearable. I see her as a part of the puzzle of why my ex has so many issues. Do any of you have difficult in-laws and if so how do you deal with it? Talking to my ex does no good, he will just tell me "fight your own battles with my mom, leave me out of it." I would just completely cut off contact but I don't want to do that to the boys...