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I took a second job at the end of last August. I worked almost every weekend, 8hrs each day, along with my job in the schools. In the summer I'm unemployed from the schools. On unemployment. Because I work the second job, my first unemployment cheque was....0.

So, it is no longer extra money. At the moment, it's the ONLY money I have coming in. Until September. This second job is draining the life out of me. They are short staffed, so I worked 2 days in the office this past week, and I'm now on call for 60hours this weekend. Friday at 5pm, until monday at 6am. It's all me. And the office is short staffed, stuff is not done, it's going to be one hell of a weekend.

If I quit, I'll probably still not get any unemployment, because, hey, I had income,and I quit. They basically want me to work every weekend, and some nights, for the rest of the summer...which basically means me getting anything done for me, having any fun, or getting stuff done for my friend's wedding will not happen. They are sucking me dry.

Do I have enough in the bank to make it if I end up getting nothing for August? Maybe. If I'm really careful. Which means the kids and I sit and do nothing. Again.

Even when I try to make things better, I end up buggering it up. I need to quit and figure out something else.

The good will come, right? I'm 4 years out, and I just can't seem to get to that good place and stay there. This sucks.

I'm sorry you are struggling right now. It sounds like the second job is a real PITA. How many more weekends are there until you go back to the job with the schools? Can you hang in there a couple more weeks and make just a little bit more $ to see you through August. Could you find a different job in the fall for extra cash?

And regarding this question:

The good will come, right?

I'm finding it comes and it goes. I don't think it "sticks" for anyone, we are all struggling through life's ups and down's. For some of us it is a financial struggle, for some of us it is emotional health or physical health, for some of us it is family issues. Life is just like this. My philosophy lately is to enjoy the hell out of the good times and to keep my head down and to keep going through the rest...Hang in there Sweetie!

((devistatedmom)))

I'm sorry things are so hard for you right now. The job sounds exhausting.

I hope you can figure out a way to exit there soon.

I worked two jobs for a little over a year. I was trying to pay bills down. I told my second part-time job that I only wanted 15 hours a week maximum. Well, since I was a "mature" and good worker, they continually scheduled me over my 15 hours.

I ended up run down and caught pneumonia which I couldn't get rid of for 4 months. I ended up quitting the second job, even though they wanted to hold it open until I was well enough to go back.

At the end of this I ended up with quite a bit of out-of-pocket medical expenses, and I ended up in a new tax bracket which meant I had to pay more in taxes at the end of the year.

My idea to help myself get out of debt ended up costing me in the end.

Sending strength and peace to you.

NL

(((dm)))