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better4me posted 7/26/2013 15:52 PM

I thought I was immune to it, had built up a tolerance, was able to get to the "thank you for eliminating yourself from my pool of potential dates" place pretty quickly and then today once again I am sad and mad and feeling unlovable and unlucky and undesirable just because "It's a date Friday" message on Wednesday and casual superficial flirting yesterday, didn't result in a "let's meet at this time at this place" message that a normal conversation with a normal person would have resulted in, but was instead replaced by a "poof" and silence. We had established a "where", had established that Friday would be good for both of us, but hadn't settled on a specific time. And when I asked "Are we still on for Friday night?" I was met with silence...

Really? Why do people do this? What is wrong with them? What sick and twisted game are they playing?? And if it isn't sick or twisted what is it??

I do realize it has NOTHING to do with me, and as Baggage Reclaim would say "He's not that special" so why does it hurt me so much? fuckityfuckfuck

heartbroken30 posted 7/26/2013 16:31 PM

(((Better4me))) I have no answers. I can't figure people out either. You are not alone.

cmego posted 7/26/2013 16:35 PM

(((b4m))))

I dunno. I had one guy cancel an hour before the date, but at least he cancelled. I've had "poofers galore" these last few weeks.

I've learned to never get my hopes up until I meet someone. The "leading up to the date" is very much in the "might be a poofer" grey area.

I have, dangerously or not, learned to be very detached from the entire OLD arena. Why I'm now taking a break...

lostmommy posted 7/26/2013 17:16 PM

I will never understand why people act like they're into you and then suddenly disappear. Before we've met is bad enough, but when it happens after the meet n greet, or even after a few dates, it's like wtf? Why waste everyone's time?

I agree with cmego. There has to be a level of detachment particularly when OLD. It's the only way to preserve even a bit of sanity lol.

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