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suckstobeme posted 7/26/2013 17:42 PM

My God. This train wreck just keeps getting better.

I had to take DD (6) to the ER. I got her there, got us in a room and texted her father early in the morning to let him know we were there and what they thought may be the problem. I contemplated not telling him unless it was really serious but I always act the way I would want him to act and I would be pissed if he ever kept an ER visit from me.

Anyway, his office is not far from there so he could have come to see her and hold her hand. Instead, he said "is it bad enough that I need to be there?". WTF? So, if they aren't slicing her open it's not worth the effort?

Fine. So I told him not to bother.

That was at 9 a.m. He never again got in touch to talk to her or ask how she's doing.

He then picked up the older DS for dinner. I kept DD home obviously. Instead of using this time to have a good one on one with DS, which he never gets, he picked him up for dinner and is dropping him almost two hours earlier than normal. Far be it from us to keep him and the slunt from starting their weekend bender later than they want.

Every time he does something like this, it pisses me off. It doesn't hurt me as much, but it pisses me off. My IC reminds me not to take it personally. Hes just weak, stupid and extremely selfish. He has no ability to put others first, not even his kids.

Regardless, I still think he should never get the benefit of them if he doesn't ever want to get his hands dirty as a parent! If he doesn't want the early morning ER trips, the tears over bad days at school, and the midnight vomiting, then he shouldn't get their laughter, their hugs and their love.

Fucker!

Nature_Girl posted 7/26/2013 18:03 PM

What a guy!

ButterflyGirl posted 7/26/2013 18:04 PM

I feel you girl.

One night, DS6 got a laceration right next to his eye trying to play limbo under a pool noodle between 2 wooden chairs and fell to the side and hit one of the chair supports. Man those hits to the face can gush some blood..

I texted POS a picture and said I was taking him to the ER (which is less than 5 minutes from his house).. All I got was "OK. How the fuck did that happen?" So I told him.

End of his involvement.

Did he come to the ER? Did he pay his half of the copay? Did he ask how he was doing the next couple days? Did he put the scar cream on as was suggested in the discharge instructions? Nope, nope, nope, nope..

Fuckers..

tryingagain74 posted 7/26/2013 19:54 PM

Ugh. Seriously, for some of them, it's out of sight, out of mind. I wonder if my kids even exist to XWH when they're with me. My DS #2 had a medical crisis (that did not end up with hospitalization, thankfully), and I emailed XWH after it happened, told him the details, etc. I got total crickets until he needed to email me about something unrelated, and then he threw in a "Is DS #2 okay?" at the end. I guess I should be thrilled that he threw me those crumbs.

DS #1 told me the other night that he felt that the Owife "was really focused on Dad." It's really sad when the kids are left on the back burner because the cheaters are so controlled by or obsessed with their APs.

FTG, for sure.


(((suckstobeme)))

dmari posted 7/26/2013 21:46 PM

Posts like these make me and and

caregiver9000 posted 7/26/2013 22:07 PM

Regardless, I still think he should never get the benefit of them if he doesn't ever want to get his hands dirty as a parent! If he doesn't want the early morning ER trips, the tears over bad days at school, and the midnight vomiting, then he shouldn't get their laughter, their hugs and their love.

I feel this too! I reason with myself that the contrast shows the involved parenting in a really good light comparatively.

And my favorite oft repeated mantra... his parenting time does not belong to him. It belongs to my boys. My boys deserve a relationship with their father, regardless of how flawed it is or how deficient.

I say that so much that typing it out caused me to sing song it in my head. sigh. It is a SMALL comfort indeed.

(((hugs))) to you and DD. Glad it wasn't serious enough to bring daddy over from work.

sparkysable posted 7/27/2013 07:03 AM

I'm pretty sure mine would behave the same way. And I would be torn with it.

Part of me would be like "you couldn't drive 5 fucking minutes to see if your daughter was doing ok in the ER?" and the other part of me would feel "I'm glad I didn't have to sit with him and look at his fucking face while he played hero dad"

ButterflyGirl posted 7/27/2013 07:14 AM

Part of me would be like "you couldn't drive 5 fucking minutes to see if your daughter was doing ok in the ER?" and the other part of me would feel "I'm glad I didn't have to sit with him and look at his fucking face while he played hero dad"

For my son, I really wished he cared enough to come.. For me, I was actually praying he wouldn't show. We were there like 5 hours. No f-ing way did I want to be near him that long..

But no followup calls or texts to see how he was doing? That really ticked me off..

An no, I don't feel he deserves the fun without putting the work in either.. Lucky for my kids, I'm superwoman and can do both..

SBB posted 7/27/2013 07:28 AM

Un-fucking-believable.

Wild horses couldn't keep me away if either of my little girls were in ER.

WTF is wrong with these people????

DeadMumWalking posted 7/27/2013 13:15 PM

WHAT A FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!!!

Stupid fucktard doesn't know the TREASURE that is PARENTING YOUR CHILDREN.

Yeah. FTG.

Kajem posted 7/27/2013 14:02 PM

Amazing that parenting your child is considered a convenience. If the time is inconvenient they don't have time to give their kids.

With 4 kids, unfortunately I have lots of stories like this. His standard text "Thanks for the heads up" . I get it for tests, surgeries, broken bones, ER visits, to labor and baby arrival . I am almost grateful, anything more might mean I have to engage.

Hugs. And I am glad your DD is better.

flygirl123 posted 7/27/2013 18:13 PM

I have always gotten the same shit.

My middle had his tonsils out last summer...I not only called...I texted...AND I wrote a letter.

He didn't show.

Son didn't notice.

I took care of him post surgery and the hellish few days that followed.

Captain Useless called to cancel his visitation for a trip with his woman, the howrecker, and I

LOST MY SHIT

His response? "Oh yeah...how did that go?"

Needless to say...I no longer call him if anything happens to the kids...NOT...AT...ALL. He just gets the bills...which he NEVER pays...

But I refuse to subject myself and my kids to any more than absolutely necessary anymore.

Hugs to you and your babies. It's hard, God knows I know...big hugs.

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