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TryingEveryday posted 7/26/2013 19:01 PM

Our R is going exactly the way it should. My wife is doing everything she can/should. Her efforts/love/patience/compassion are endless. She is remorseful and completely open. We've been through IC and MC. Seven months out now. And I gotta say, the new normal day-to-day life sucks. Up one minute, down the next. Triggers. Rollercoasters. I hate this. I know we're gonna get through it, but I seriously hate it.

somanyyears posted 7/26/2013 19:10 PM


..i'm hearing you brother.. 4+ years out and there continues to be 'bad' days..

..not too many folks here who"DON'T" hate it..

..peace and prayers to you.


SadFlower posted 7/26/2013 19:18 PM

I also hate the roller coaster. At 11 months out, though, the ups are far more frequent than the downs. Hang in the, Trying--it sounds as though your FWW is doing everything possible. In time, your downs will become less frequent, too.

But I do get it--the triggers and the roller coaster are pretty awful.

AFrayedKnot posted 7/26/2013 22:55 PM

The roller coaster does suck. It does get better though.

Are there any new and fun things you can plan to do together to break up the day to day?

still-living posted 7/27/2013 05:03 AM

Like Chicho says, it gets better. It's like a diminishing sine wave, with some randomness, and it levels out lower than what you lived with before.

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