Topic: The "new normal" sucks.
Member # 39429
| Posted: 7:01 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013|
Our R is going exactly the way it should. My wife is doing everything she can/should. Her efforts/love/patience/compassion are endless. She is remorseful and completely open. We've been through IC and MC. Seven months out now. And I gotta say, the new normal day-to-day life sucks. Up one minute, down the next. Triggers. Rollercoasters. I hate this. I know we're gonna get through it, but I seriously hate it.
Me - BS - 46
Her - WW - 38 (2 ONS)
DD20, DD18, DD17, DS16, DS16
D Day - Dec 24, 2012 -
R - 20 months and going extremely well.
Posts: 37 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Montana
Member # 26970
| Posted: 7:10 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013|
..i'm hearing you brother.. 4+ years out and there continues to be 'bad' days..
..not too many folks here who"DON'T" hate it..
..peace and prayers to you.
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf
Posts: 4134 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
Member # 37725
| Posted: 7:18 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013|
I also hate the roller coaster. At 11 months out, though, the ups are far more frequent than the downs. Hang in the, Trying--it sounds as though your FWW is doing everything possible. In time, your downs will become less frequent, too.
But I do get it--the triggers and the roller coaster are pretty awful.
Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA
Posts: 417 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
Member # 36622
| Posted: 10:55 PM, July 26th (Friday), 2013|
The roller coaster does suck. It does get better though.
Are there any new and fun things you can plan to do together to break up the day to day?
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2692 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 30434
| Posted: 5:03 AM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013|
Like Chicho says, it gets better. It's like a diminishing sine wave, with some randomness, and it levels out lower than what you lived with before.
WW 47 FOO Issues
DDay 11/09 Coworker
High School Sweethearts
8 months TT
Sons 19 and 14
Recovery is constructing a pyramid of inference from which to see clearer.
The process involves using the reflexive loop.
Posts: 811 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Ches
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