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User Topic: Example of what to ask for in divorce
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 7:28 AM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I live in SC, so your state probably isn't as conservative as mine, but I wanted to put this link up as a guide for everyone. It is the standard child visitation/restraining orders for our state. I hope it helps anyone as you muddle thru deciding what "rules" you want in your D.

http://www.atkinssc.com/resourcefiles/STANDARDVISITATION.pdf

Thank God in my state it says the children cannot have overnights with XWS and his girlfriend. They did spend the night w/ kids there, and all it took was 1 email threatening court action and they stopped it. (For now, I suspect).


Also, the holiday most people forget about is Halloween. If you want to be involved in this holiday, be sure to have it in your papers that you rotate Halloween "trick or treating" or you share the event, whatever works for you.

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 7:29 AM, July 27th (Saturday)]


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2320 | Registered: Jan 2012
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank God is states in the standard orders that OW cannot stay the night with children there. I just had it enforced.


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2320 | Registered: Jan 2012
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am still working on trying to get this into the papers.

I have panic attacks at the thought of OW being around DD and new baby and simply cannot fathom it. Nearly ExH threatens in a jovial way that "someday" they will meet and I hope I am on another planet when it happens.

One other minor holiday we hassled about was Easter, also. I am not overly religious but like to know the symbolism behind holidays and nearly ExH doesn't care, so I asked for that time.

A hard thing for me, just for chat, was the idea of every other year for DD's birthday. I couldn't handle being separated from her on her birthday right now, even if it's selfish. This was a really hard thing to do, especially with things so far ahead and unknown.


Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


Posts: 2364 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 12:20 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here it's 1/2 day of the birthday with each parent, I think...

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 12:21 AM, July 29th (Monday)]


Keep Calm and Happy On!

me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed


Posts: 2320 | Registered: Jan 2012
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:00 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is pissing me off. The custody guidelines we're working with don't allow me to be with the kids every other year for their birthdays. That pisses me off. Birthdays are a big deal to me. STBX didn't even want the kids, he wanted me to abort. Now I have to share their birthdays. And I don't get a courtesy couple of hours with them, I just plain ol' don't get them at all.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10004 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 1:02 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

And it pisses me off that I, the religious parent, don't get to have my kids for religious holidays. It pisses me off that my children's religious training/experiences (church, Sunday School) is going to be cut in half so sex pervert daddy can have them.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10004 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((Nature Girl)) I hear you.


“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21

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