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User Topic: Toddler heart murmur
musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I took my not quite 2 yr old son to the dr for a regular checkup this week. The dr listened to his heart with an adult stethoscope instead of a pediatric one and heard a murmur. My husband's family has a history of heart issues (his sister has a murmur and his mother has some serious heart conditions). I will be taking my ornery, over-active, super-loving boy in for an EKG at noon on Aug. 16 (which also happens to be dday AND the day my hubby and I are leaving for a weekend trip sans kids).

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:03 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo he grows out of it like my DD did.

EKG is good to have. When DD was 14 she started having fainting spells. Pediatric cardiologist had the old EKG as a baseline for comparison.

Hugs. Hard not to worry.


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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending hugs and prayers and good thoughts.

Not that I would EVER wish this situation on you, but this might actually push the DDay bad feelings to the back burner. On my first anti I was taking care of my nephew while my sister was in the hospital. Incredibly, I hardly noticed the date.

(((musiclovingmom)))

[This message edited by Jrazz at 4:33 PM, July 27th (Saturday)]


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lostmommy
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((musiclovingmom)))) J's dr found a heart murmur during his one year checkup and it turned out to be nothing. I took him to the cardiologist and the dr said he couldn't even see one in the echo. I hope the same situation happens to you. Sending prayers your way.


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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Big mojo

(((musicloving)))

99% of heart murmers are benign (I have one). I know until you get that clean bill of health it won't matter, but I know your wee one will be fine.


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musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the hugs and reassurance everyone. My dr says that he ordered the EKG because he's a paranoid dr, not because be thinks anything is really wrong. It was barely discernible with the stethoscope and I'm sure it will all be ok. I just get really anxious about anything like that. Worse since my daughter had appendicitis at 3 (and a mere 27 lbs).

Jrazz - that's kinda what I'm hoping. We're also meeting my parents for dinner and dancing that evening (I can't even remember how long it has been since we've been dancing and since my parents live out of state never with them).


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

http://www.seattlechildrens.org/medical-conditions/heart-blood-conditions/heart-murmurs/

That is good overview above.
A doctor also found a slight murmur in ds at 3 years old. It turned out to be nothing.
This is particularly reassuring...

The majority of murmurs heard in children are just the sounds of blood moving through the heart. More than half of all children will have a heart murmur at some time, but less than one percent of all children have a structural heart defect that may cause a murmur.

Good luck with the EKG and sending mojo that it turns out to be nothing to worry over.



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GrievingMommy
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hope all goes well at his appt. I bet it does!

My DS4 has a heart murmur that is occasionally heard. He's seen a peds cardiologist and all was deemed well and that it's an 'innocent' mumur. I work in cardiovascular surg/ICU so it had me really nervous!

I'm glad your Dr is being proactive though.



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AgainandAgain
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, July 27th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Prayers and mojo to your little guy!

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trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

not all murmurs in children / adults are serious. Hopefully your Dr has given you more info


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JanetS
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know much about heart murmurs, but I have heard that they are not always problematic. I do hope this is the case with your little guy.

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been told many times I have a heart murmur. I'm 52 and it hasn't impacted me at all.

They say to take antibiotics for dental work if you have a heart murmur but I never have as I value my digestive ecology and antibiotics mess it up. Knock on wood so far no issue at all.

Good luck to your child....


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DragnHeart
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hugs!

I hope all goes well with your little one!

My dr said he heard a murmur on dd.

She had a heart ultrasound. It was normal. No EKG.


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At 16 I had a heart murmur bad enough to keep me out of first year phys ed in university. By the time I married at 21, it was gone. Most of these things go away on their own. But get it checked anyway if only just for your own peace of mind.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((mlmom)))
It is not unusual for kids to have murmurs, especially for kids that are active. Most are not a big deal, and if it were it probably would have raised it's ugly head before now. The fact that he used and adult vs pediatric stethoscope doesn't really matter, what does matter, is that the Dr really took the time to listen. So often they put it over one spot, and just listen for 2 seconds that things like that aren't picked up on. So Kudos for having a good Dr.

BTW - They should listen to their heart in four locations, focusing on each valve of the heart. This allows you not only to pick up murmurs, but identify which valve may be causing it.

((((MLM))))


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musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tush - I do have a great dr. He always listens in 4 places. He could only hear the murmur in one and barely there. He also made sure to point it out to the medical student spending the summer in his office.
(I might have a biased opinion of this dr. I've known him since I was 15, play right behind him in our local orchestra and taught his son in jr high choir)

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musiclovingmom
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today was his appointment. We showed up the standard 20 mins early. They took us back. It wasn't what I thought. They were using an ultrasound to take pictures of his heart. They needs 120 pictures. After holding him still for a half hour, they had 24 pictures. They, mercifully, let us leave and gave me a number to the pediatric cardiologist that visits our hospital once a month. Apparently, he has different equipment and the combination of that and the dr being in the room makes for a much easier procedure for kids his age/activity level. The soonest they can see him is October 16, which is after his next regular check up. At least they aren't billing anyone for today's disaster.

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hurtbs
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, August 16th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh that sucks, I'm sorry. At least it was just a waste of time... I had an errant procedure that was hugely painful once (and I got billed).


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DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

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