Time to go mow the lawn!!
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 2:09 PM, July 28th (Sunday)]
Liberating and empowering. I remember letting go of that fear. It was a process because there were other changes to be made too. But every step of the way, when I would stop and reflect it was this realization.
I am happy dancing for you Phoenix1!!!
Congrats on the awareness. Thanks for sharing, you post was very uplifting.
I will say that somethings are easier to do with four hands than one, but I have been pretty amazed by the stuff I have been able to do with just me, some smarts, and a few helpful tools.
Like, I moved a king sized bed, with one of those giant ultra thick, super heavy mattresses. I used a tarp on the ground, then I put a couple tie down straps around it, tied loops in the straps for hand holds, cinched the straps down, and inched the thing this way and that until it was inside and all together.
I replumbed the hot water system (I'm a caretaker at a big place that has several hot water heaters) to eliminate one of the heaters and bring hot water from a different one. Planned it all out, measured, bought the parts, cut, glued, wrenched, etc. It works just fine! I'd never done any significant plumbing before but really once I got going it wasn't that difficult.
A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.
I edit because I always make typos.
Then we wonder why they wont do anything when it comes to divorce proceedings; like turn in the paperwork required. It's because we aren't there to do it for them.
Have you ever wondered if they were like this at work? I got my xh's employee review during the divorce and realized that it was exactly like that at work. Had other people doing his work for him.
I've change the door latch on the dish washer, a hot water heater, the diverter in the tub/shower, and my headlights and wiper blades...
Take2, gotta love YouTube! It also helps growing up with only older brothers! They wouldn't let me drive a car until I proved to them that I could change a tire, jump start a battery, and change the oil. The big meanies!!
POS is going to miss me whether he realizes it or not because who else is going to carry all the weight? His 90 year old mother????
Welcome to SI, but sorry you find yourself here. No one wants to be here, but it is a great support group!
Like you, thinking back I was really a single parent for a long time since POS worked out of the area. But with him now permanently gone, at least I know that I need to just "do it." No "talking about it," no "can you take care of it" requests (only to have to do it anyway on a delayed schedule), no getting bitched at for not waiting for him to do it or discuss with him first. If something needs to be done, I simply get it done! WooHoo!