The last two relationships I've had lasted through bad behavior and I didn't leave until my family was insulted or it affected them. NO matter I was allowing myself to be taken for granted (and realized it, but denied it), but when my children or grandchildren were disregarded or not treated well, that was when my brain kicked in and said enough.
I wonder why I didn't leave before that happened? Why would I take bad behavior, and only act when it was spilling over to my family? This latest time, no one in my family had to experience it - what occurred was only known to me.
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Like phmh said, I'm happy that I have the chance to do things over again and to view myself as someone who is worthy of a more giving and healthy relationship. I wish the same for you.
Get my kids involved and I go into mother bear mode. I need to figure out why I don't go all mother bear for myself?
I keep telling myself its a process but I wonder if I have always put up with bad behavior.
The only person that can make you happy is you. Do as I say, not as I do.