Yes the problems stem from her unhappiness after 2 miscarriages. Anti-Depression med, then more meds, then she totally changed toward me.
No affair that I can confirm, the normal affair signs were not there.
Just walked in one day and said "I am tired of being unhappy and I want a divorce, I am not in love with you anymore" and moved to her sisters house 2 miles away.
We had no contact at all, of any kind, for two weeks. Then last week she kept wanting to see our dogs. Tonight I took them to her (she works odd hours and is off Mon and Tue) to wit she agreed to bring them back on Wednesday (we'll see)
Meeting for dinner tonight was the first face to face since she left. I went OUT OF MY WAY to make sure we did not talk about "us" and instead kept our conversations about work and friendly things. I don't want to push her away.
Ended it well, walked her out. I think we both choked up when we hugged, but I maintained myself and so did she.
I know this violates the 180 principles, but at least I kept it friendly and without self-pity. Just tried to keep it as normal and consistent as possible.
No Children (lost 2 miscarriage)
WA- June 2011
Separated Aug 2011
Counseling- Oct 2011
Reconciled- Dec 2011
Cont'd Counseling Jan-Jun 2012
Separated- Jul 2013