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wanttofeelwhole posted 7/28/2013 17:31 PM

I keep searching this site for I don't know what. I have no more anger, no real feeling at all. It's almost as if I'm numb. I think I love my FWH, but, and I say this, do not feel in love with him. I'm not the slightest bit frightened of divorce. I'm not den sure I would care. I have so many wishes, but don't see any of them coming true. This being the case, we have no future. I feel like we are just prolonging the inevitable. Is this a stage? Is it normal to reach a point when you feel nothing? I do feel sadness sometimes, but its more about the lose than the A. It almost as if the A has become the excuse. I feel like maybe I even feel disconnected on this site.

wifeno2 posted 7/28/2013 17:36 PM

Possibly the plain of lethal flatness. I have experienced it briefly-and at the time it was a welcome relief from the pain. But it didn't last long..

wanttofeelwhole posted 7/28/2013 18:08 PM

I can't figure out what scares, or scared, me more. The fear that I would never get past the pain, or the fear of of never getting past this feeling of indifference.

krazy8516 posted 7/28/2013 18:12 PM

Is it bad that I am jealous of your indifference? I feel like my husband is indifferent, and if I could be too it would be so much easier to call it quits. While your nothingness upsets you, I have been striving to feel nothing. Is that normal??

wanttofeelwhole posted 7/28/2013 19:22 PM

I have to say, in the beginning I would have given anything to feel this way, but at almost three years it scares me. The pain, anger and confusion was so intense for so long I never thought things would level off bi even considered meds and I won't even take an Advil. There is no secret pill for the pain, only time somehow makes it bearable. I receive so much joy from my children. I love my knew job, even though it it far from perfect. But my marriage does nothing for me. Last weekend my FWH screwed up, not in an A kind of way, but in a stupid husband way. The next day I took my daughter to the dentist, came home, packed a bag and went to my friends until about 11 pm. We swam went to my exes BBQ, even went out for a little bit. I came home went to sleep and never said a word. I just don't have the energy or desire to fight. He knows he's losing me, but doesn't have the ability to fight for us and I have lost the desire. It scares me to feel so little for someone who used to mean the world to me.

Ixion posted 7/28/2013 22:02 PM

I am only in this situation for four months, but I am feeling exactly the same. I know how I should feel and what I should do, but I just dont have the energy to make the effort or care. There just isnt any point. I dont fight or shout or love or laugh or cry. I dont want to get divorced, but if it happens then it happens, but I also cant see a future out of the dead end that this situation has created. I know that continuing like this isnt helping anyone without any decision or way forwards, but I just dont care.

[This message edited by Ixion at 10:03 PM, July 28th (Sunday)]

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