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momonly
♀ 36768
Member # 36768 |  Posted: 6:31 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013 |     |
My last post was in September 2012 when I just found out my WH was having a 6 month affair with a girl 23 years old. Since then I have I found out that she was just the latest in a long string of girl friends dating back 15 years. His first was when we first started marriage counseling 15 years ago. I decided to separate and I moved out (he wouldnt). Since then we have been trying to be civil. I received a lot of nasty texts from him so I went NC until he could be civil. He still wants me back. He is relentless and I was wavering.....until yesterday when my youngest son said Dad had a friend over last night....Natalie. I recognized the name...24 year old waitress. My WH said nothing happened. All the old feelings came flooding back. I felt back at ground zero, but it didnt last long. I went to pick up my son from his dads house today. Computer was left open and on in the office.....shouldnt have looked....it was an email from some exotic tantric massage place confirming an appointment  So then I had a peek at his contacts...I know...it was wrong....found some scary stuff....nude pictures w phone numbers. Hookers and young! Seriously I need to have my head examined! Clearly he is a deviant! And I'm an idiot! Thank God I havent been intimate w him since Aug 2012!! Its time for me to re establish firm bounderies. Any body else experience this type of behavior? I think I am dealing with a personality disorder....narcassism maybe. Yikes! 
me:BW-52
him:WH-53
married 27 years
C-19
C-15
Posts: 12 | Registered: Sep 2012 |
AFrayedKnot
♂ 36622
Member # 36622 |  Posted: 6:44 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013 | |
(((Momonly)))
I am sorry for what you are going through. There are threads in the I can Relate forum for NPD and Sex addicts. You might find more specific support there. Weekends are also a little slow here. Don't give up. Keep posting and reading you will find the support you need.
BS 40
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2709 | Registered: Aug 2012 |
steph
♀ 11564
Member # 11564 | | Posted: 6:57 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013 | |
Nothing wrong with you taking a look at the computer or anything else. If he is saying he wants to get back together, you should have full disclosure. If he won't give it to you and it's right there in front of you, you should look.
So sorry.
Me BS
Him WS
Married 27 yrs at first affair, now married over 30
Dday July 3, 06 False R for over 2.5 years, Discovery again 2/17/09 and again Dec 2011, same pathetic OW.
It's what you do when someone is not looking that reveals the most a
Posts: 2301 | Registered: Aug 2006 |
Random thoughts
♀ 2959
Member # 2959 | | Posted: 7:15 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013 | |
Please make an appointment to get checked out for STD's even though you haven't been together in almost a year.
Also see a lawyer. Obviously your way ward wants to cake eat, lie and squander his money on whores
Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW
Posts: 1642 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey |
momonly
♀ 36768
Member # 36768 | | Posted: 7:23 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013 | |
Saw my doctor in October for STI testing...all good (thank God) and have a lawyer. Just wasn't sure how I wanted to proceed. I don't want a battle but Im pretty sure thats what Im going to get. Thanks for the support all!
me:BW-52
him:WH-53
married 27 years
C-19
C-15
Posts: 12 | Registered: Sep 2012 |
gma56
♀ 19595
Member # 19595 | | Posted: 7:26 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013 | |
If you had any doubts about how bad his problems are, you have all the evidence you need to move forward.
He's one sick old dog.
Quoted from Strongbutbroken in D/S forum: What a massive piece of shit. Show your dick some respect dude Just love this quote so had to use it! 
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
Posts: 20394 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be.. |
Random thoughts
♀ 2959
Member # 2959 | | Posted: 7:43 PM, July 28th (Sunday), 2013 | |
Expect a battle from him, just think he would rather blow "his " money on strangers, whores and massages than on his marriage and getting help for himself and your marriage very sad.
Sad that he is investing in the wrong choices that will cost him more than money.
Those three words are said too much and not enough.
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.
FWW
Posts: 1642 | Registered: Dec 2003 | From: Some where in New Jersey |
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