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phillygirl posted 7/29/2013 07:52 AM

Well I received the final decree in the mail Friday. I am officially divorced. I don't feel much of anything except relief.

I'm still a little angry? Disappointed? In myself for getting into this mess and allowing it to go on for so long. I should have left him before our first anniversary.

I now realize that I have a severe case of "nice" which allowed him to gaslight, mind fuck and hoover me back into that relationship again and again. I'm going to get working on protecting myself better.

But I'm just glad it's over and I never have to see or talk to him ever again. Woot!

Lalagirl posted 7/29/2013 07:58 AM

Wow. I see you joined in 2005 - this certainly has been one hell of a road for you.

I am so glad you are starting new. You deserve it. Lots of hugs and best of luck to you, philly!!

ButterflyGirl posted 7/29/2013 07:59 AM

Congrats girl!!

I'm still a little angry? Disappointed? In myself for getting into this mess and allowing it to go on for so long. I should have left him before our first anniversary.

I think I have/will have a big case of this ^^^ too. I'm angry and disappointed in myself.. We were even friends first, and I knew he was a kind of a dick.. So I guess I'm mad at how he treated me, but I'm also mad I let it continue for so long, thinking I'm some angel from heaven that could help him..

Oh well, lesson learned, onward and upward!! Congrats again! Have a good one!

FaithFool posted 7/29/2013 08:00 AM

Welcome to your new beginning.

ninebark posted 7/29/2013 08:08 AM

Yay! Happy Divorce Day! Go out and do something nice to celebrate! have a martini, eat a cake..lol. Ohh buy some shoes!

Ann124 posted 7/29/2013 08:10 AM

Congrats Phillygirl!!

Wishing you good luck and happiness in your new beginnings!!!

phillygirl posted 7/29/2013 09:10 AM

Wow. I see you joined in 2005 - this certainly has been one hell of a road for you.

Yeah I'm a really slow learner!

Thank you everybody - It was a long time coming - but I had a great weekend. Just me, kitteh, a bottle of wine, junk food, jammies and the DVR.

[This message edited by phillygirl at 9:11 AM, July 29th (Monday)]

SBB posted 7/29/2013 09:23 AM

But I'm just glad it's over and I never have to see or talk to him ever again. Woot!

^^#EnvyOverHere

tryingagain74 posted 7/29/2013 09:51 AM

Congratulations! I'm happy for you. I was really thrilled to be free once and for all as well. Make sure that you do something to celebrate!

heartbroken_kk posted 7/29/2013 10:16 AM

Congratulations!

Nice is such a double-edged sword. It's stunning how much it can hurt us when we apply it to others.

Welcome to your NB!

Pippy posted 7/29/2013 10:48 AM

We all learn by our "mistakes". Good luck to you Philly.

stronger08 posted 7/29/2013 12:20 PM

Here's to your new beginning. When I got my decree in the mail it was like a 1000lb weight was lifted off my back. Well she was only 110 lbs. but she sure felt like a thousand LOL. Congrats

[This message edited by stronger08 at 12:21 PM, July 29th (Monday)]

devistatedmom posted 7/29/2013 16:37 PM

Long journey or not, you made it! Congrats having it over with.

Blackhair posted 7/30/2013 00:25 AM

Great to hear, lot of people won't have the courage to take this step.

Nature_Girl posted 7/30/2013 00:32 AM

Congratulations!

phillygirl posted 7/30/2013 07:52 AM

Thank you everybody!!

The funny thing though is that the divorce really 100% confirmed for me what I had started to believe was true - that WXH never really gave a damn about me at. I was "of use" to him. And since I decided to divorce him, not so much.

I haven't heard a peep from him. No texts, emails, sad voicemails, nothing. He's gone NC with me. Although I don't want to hear from him, it kind of adds a little tiny sting at this point to realize that yes, I was used, and used until he couldn't use me anymore.

Blech...I vow to have a better picker next time!

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