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 itainteasy (original poster member #31094) posted at 5:19 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

I am the "lucky" owner of a 4mm kidney stone. I spent the entire day in the ER yesterday.

This is pain like I have never known.

Does anyone know how long it takes to pass a stone...and will the pain get worse as it's passing?

I'm miserable.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:30 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

It can take no time, to forever for them to pass, if it is bigger than the tube it won't come out on it's own. Drink as much as you can stand. Once the stone has made it passed the kidney you may have some discomfort while urinating, but then it should go away altogether.

Didn't they give you pain meds?

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 6:36 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

(((itainteasy)))

Kidney stones are awful.

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SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 6:41 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

Ugh! My poor DD33 just went through this. She was in agonizing pain. It took her over a week to pass 2 stones, or at least a week from when she found out she had kidney stones and that was why she was in agony. (Who knows how long you have them before they start hurting?) She wasn't in constant pain, but when the pain hit (never knew when) it was awful.

DD said it just felt weird when she passed them, it didn't actually hurt.

(((itainteasy)))

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 8:17 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

(((itainteasy)))

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 8:37 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

(((itainteasy)))

I have heard how painful those are. I'm sorry you are suffering.

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woundedwidow ( member #36869) posted at 8:41 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

((itainteasy)) I hope they've given you some "good" pain meds by now! I had a kidney stone at work and initially refused to go to the Naval clinic. By the time the pain ratcheted up to full power, I told the secretary they could carry me across the parade ground to the clinic if the ambulance wasn't available. The pain felt like a sword until I got a morphine shot, but I never felt the stone pass at all. I hope you feel MUCH better soon!

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Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 10:03 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

Ugh so sorry. I had one once as a teenager and I remember laying in the ER praying to die.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 11:03 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013

The pain on the route from the kidneys to the bladder was the most painful for me.

Sorry you're dealing with them. I didn't know I had them until the pain hit in the middle of the night.

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cmego ( member #30346) posted at 1:48 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

I had one while pregnant!!

I first thought I was miscarrying, but the pain was too intense and in my side. I couldn't have an x-ray, and I couldn't have pain meds. After 12 hours of pacing and intense pain, I finally took a 1/2 of a darvocet and passed out.

I woke up the next morning in no pain. About a week later...it happened again, but not as intense. I passed the stone about an hour later.

I will never. never. never forget that pain. Horrible.

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purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 4:14 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

Usually a 4mm will pass with fluids and pain meds. We often give other drugs like flomax to help. Bigger than 4mm takes a urologist having to go get the stone and then place a stent.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:17 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

What I find interesting is that passing kidney stones - and it took a couple days - was not the worst pain I've ever experienced. Not even close. Mind you, it was intense & incredibly painful. But I've been in more pain. That's why I didn't realize what was happening to me for a day-ish. Everyone says it's the worst pain imaginable, but for me it wasn't. The pain combined with the blood is what tipped me off that something was seriously wrong. Duh.

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 itainteasy (original poster member #31094) posted at 12:32 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

Thank you so much everyone for the hugs and replies. I'm sorry I poofed yesterday...my pain got a little severe and I had to take the pain meds. I have Norco, 5-325. It seems to be helping. Of course I had to take 2 in 2 hours for it to stop the pain.

It feels like someone kicked me on the left lower side of my back (a dull persistant ache), and then out of nowhere it feels like someone is stabbing me repeatedly in my left side, above my hip.

It's horrible. I am pounding the water like you wouldn't believe, but I have a gastric lap band, so I can't take too much at a time I did manage about 50 oz of water all day yesterday, and I have started on my water today..I'm about 8 oz in so far.

I'm really afraid of the stone coming out. It just seems like my um...pee hole...isn't a 4mm opening. But, I don't want this thing in there causing me pain either.

Since I've never had one, I don't know what to expect. Everyone keeps saying "you'll know when you pass it", and I don't know what that means! Is it going to hurt EVEN MORE when it comes out? Or do they mean I'll hear it hit the toilet?

I hate not knowing an outcome.

Thank you so much again, everyone, for the support, and advice. I appreciate you all.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 1:47 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

itainteasy,

The tubes that stone has to travel through before you pee it out are much smaller than the actual pee tube (urethra). That being said it is still painful. But met with relief after you pass it. Do they have you straining your urine? They should. Basically peeing through a thing that looks somewhat like a coffee filter? This so you know when you pass the stone.

Also is there a plan in place for you if you don't pass it in a certain amount of time? If not, call your Dr today. If left too long, and is actually blocking the pathway out, it can cause some real kidney issues.

Keep on with the water it's going to be tough with the lap band, but you gotta get it in you.

((((and strength))))

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 itainteasy (original poster member #31094) posted at 2:03 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

tushnurse,

They told me in my discharge packet that I should "strain" my urine, but didn't give me anything other than prescriptions for pain meds and anti nausea meds.

I'm pretty sure I haven't passed it yet, because I've had 2 cycles of pain in the middle of the night.

Today would be 48 hrs since I was first treated, but actually 72 hrs since the pain symptoms started.

They said if I have "no change" after 48 hrs I should talk to my doctor.

I think I'll call her now.

eta:

I'm see my family doctor at 4 today.

[This message edited by itainteasy at 8:44 AM, July 30th (Tuesday)]

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DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 4:26 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

Oh I'm sorry you're in so much pain!

My father had kidney stones a few times. I was very young the first time but remember he had to have surgery.

My FIL had them a year or so ago. He said it felt like he had a 300lb person sitting on his testicles...not sure why his pain was there but he was the happiest man alive when he finally passed it.

I hope it passes soon and you're out of pain!

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hopelessromantic ( member #25415) posted at 2:24 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013

I've had them a couple times and am currently "housing" two very small ones now

Yes, painful and first time had no idea - dropped me to my knees and felt like someone was stabbing me with a knife!

Second time around, I didn't pass them, had to have them blasted by a machine to break them up in order for me to pass them.

hope you get relief soon!

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hurtbs ( member #10866) posted at 2:33 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013

I had a stone a few years ago. The pain was so bad, as I tell people "If I had the nuclear launch codes, I'd talk."

My stone was also 4mm. I knew that I passed it because the pain stopped (I had persistent stabbing pain 24/7 - no relief). I didn't actually feel the stone pass.

My brother (who has had several) says that he has felt the stones pass but that the "pain" is akin to passing a bowl movement when you're terrible constipated - painful, but with a lot of relief. Sorry for the analogy... gross but maybe accurate.

Hang in there. Mine hung around for a week.

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cmego ( member #30346) posted at 2:44 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013

I don't know how large mine was...but big enough to impress a couple of nurses!

I "felt" mine pass...almost like I urinated a bubble out. (sorry for the TMI) I thought...hunh, that felt odd...went to wipe...and the stone was there on the TP. Both my ex and Mom are nurses...they were shocked at the size. I just know that it was pretty smooth, which I was very thankful for!

I've not had one since. I read later that sometimes they only show up in pregnancy.

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 itainteasy (original poster member #31094) posted at 1:59 PM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013

I saw my doctor yesterday...and she said she was pretty confident that since I hadn't had pain since 4 am (yesterday) that the stone probably passed.

Of course today, I'm feeling like I got kicked in the back--so I'm thinking it didn't pass.

I took a norco, and am trying to work, but it's really bothering me.

I'm not feeling the stabbing pain in my side, just the uncomfortable "bruised" feeling in my back. Maybe the norco stopped the stabby pain (I hope!).

I'm back to pounding water....I'm almost 34 oz in and i've been awake close to 3 hrs!

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