The day we buried her, I thought I would finally let it go. Let his A's go. Let the pain go. Let the fact that I cannot control him no matter how many questions I ask and/or monitor him. Let it go. Don't get me wrong, I can still be sad, but letting it go was a biggie for me. Just wanted to share.
[This message edited by libertyrocks at 11:55 AM, July 29th (Monday)]
gosh....i wish everyday i could do what she advised....
This is not the kind of thing you can just "look past." Your WH had 8(?) OW during the last few years. This is an enormous betrayal. Looking past it,IMO,sounds like rugsweeping..put your head in the sand and pretend it never happened. Which will kill you. The pain will eat you alive. Or it will set you up for more pain in the future when you discover yet another OW.
Im very sorry about her passing.
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
I knew WS's parents were divorced and remarried quickly but only recently found out she actually was the OW - yes I was taking advice from an OW!!! Ugh!!! Sounds like a crappy soap opera now that I think about it.
Finally this is R 8/14/13
"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".