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dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 8:11 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
I've finally booked an appointment to get tested for ALL sti's next week and I'm scared shit.
Ex says he did not sleep with OW but I don't believe a word he says as initially after DDay he said that the affair started after my DD was born and that they only kissed three times. I now know that the A started whilst I was pregnant and I have since found out in an angry manner from him that they did more than kiss.
The thing is OW was raped when my ex first met her and who know's what she might have?
If it turns out I have caught something I really don't know what I am going to do.
Emotional abuse is one thing but having to deal with possible physical abuse too might tip me over the edge. I have two very young children to think of :(
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 8:13 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
(((dindy)))
In my experience, not knowing is almost worse than knowing. I think it's smart that you're getting the tests done - there's a really great chance that you will come back squeaky clean.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 8:59 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
I'm glad you are getting tested. I agree with Ama that the not knowing is worse. If by chance they do find something then you can deal with it head on.
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 9:01 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 10:45 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
Sending mojo it comes back clean.
I remember getting tested the first time after d-day and crying on the table. It came back clean but I've made the decision to have regular testing going forward. Regardless of how solid the relationship seems, there is really no harm in staying on top of your health.
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 10:22 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Thank you. It's something I should have already done. :)
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