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User Topic: Getting tested for sti's next week and scared!
♀ 38424
Member # 38424
Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've finally booked an appointment to get tested for ALL sti's next week and I'm scared shit.

Ex says he did not sleep with OW but I don't believe a word he says as initially after DDay he said that the affair started after my DD was born and that they only kissed three times. I now know that the A started whilst I was pregnant and I have since found out in an angry manner from him that they did more than kiss.

The thing is OW was raped when my ex first met her and who know's what she might have?

If it turns out I have caught something I really don't know what I am going to do.

Emotional abuse is one thing but having to deal with possible physical abuse too might tip me over the edge. I have two very young children to think of :(

Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: uk
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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In my experience, not knowing is almost worse than knowing. I think it's smart that you're getting the tests done - there's a really great chance that you will come back squeaky clean.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad you are getting tested. I agree with Ama that the not knowing is worse. If by chance they do find something then you can deal with it head on.

Me - BW
2 DDs

Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.

Posts: 4028 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember getting tested at my doctor's office and the WHOLE time I was there.....I was singing like a canary like "My husband cheated on me and that's why I'm doing this and blah blah blah!"

I remember leaving all of the paperwork on the kitchen counter because he was still coming by the house when I wasn't home and I wanted him to SEE that I had gotten tested. JERK.

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12

Posts: 2767 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
♀ 32616
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Default  Posted: 4:45 PM, July 29th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending mojo it comes back clean.

I remember getting tested the first time after d-day and crying on the table. It came back clean but I've made the decision to have regular testing going forward. Regardless of how solid the relationship seems, there is really no harm in staying on top of your health.

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

Posts: 3640 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
♀ 38424
Member # 38424
Default  Posted: 4:22 AM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you. It's something I should have already done. :)

Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: uk
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