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copingdaily (original poster member #34713) posted at 9:15 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
I am soooo annoyed with this damn Weiner dude and his sexting partner! Yuck! My WS and I are doing great except he likes that whole sexting but not about us, about 3sums and all kinds of crap. I dont like it. He stops for a while then wants to Play again. Am I going to lose him to these kids of women? His AP was not only a talker but she walked the walk. Are we not compatible? Are we doomed? Am I a prude?? help
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copingdaily (original poster member #34713) posted at 9:19 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
sorry for mispellings, I was rambling
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wert ( member #34478) posted at 9:39 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
I am really sorry you are hurting. This really caught my eye...
Am I a prude??
Who cares? Be who you are. If that is a prude well then great, fine a bunch of other prudes to hang out with. If your H doesn't respect that about you (your boundaries) you need to move on. People get to chose who they are and well, you get to chose the people you hang out with. Tell him those things and make some choices...
take care...
Missymomma ( member #36988) posted at 9:48 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
Your post is a little unclear. Is he sexting other women or you?
DDay - 6/15/11
R started - 7/1/11
False Discl- 9/27/12
Real Discl - 2/12/13
Poly - 3/1/13 Pass!
Me - BS (46)
WH - 52 (SA, NA, WA)
Kids: 2 littles and 1 grown
The road to recovery is long and hard. Some days I am up for it and others not!
copingdaily (original poster member #34713) posted at 9:55 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
me. He asks if I have found a boyfriend for our 3sum and stuff like that
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StruckNumb ( member #38973) posted at 10:03 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
Weiner is a flasher. It's been a big trigger for me also. Hubby and I talk the daily news but this is the one topic we don't discuss.
One of the issues I have(by both my hubby and father with multiple girlfriends) is how women have no loyalty to their gender.
It truly is a dog eat dog world.
me-BW-51
f?WH - 49
m27 yrs, T 28, no kids
OW-WH's former CW, friends + 20yr
DDay-11/16/12, LT EA, 4y? PA, manymany
EA with FFriends over the years
Attempting R
Is there an end to blindness in sight?
copingdaily (original poster member #34713) posted at 10:08 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
thats right Struck Numb. Terrible,terrible
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Missymomma ( member #36988) posted at 10:09 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
The fact that he wants to talk about the two of you having sex with someone else would concern me. No, it isn't prudish to have boundaries and stick to them.
BTW, from most experts I have talked to Weiner is probably an SA. A big fat narcissistic SA. If your WS is showing the same attributes, then this might be something to consider.
DDay - 6/15/11
R started - 7/1/11
False Discl- 9/27/12
Real Discl - 2/12/13
Poly - 3/1/13 Pass!
Me - BS (46)
WH - 52 (SA, NA, WA)
Kids: 2 littles and 1 grown
The road to recovery is long and hard. Some days I am up for it and others not!
copingdaily (original poster member #34713) posted at 10:18 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
I have considered this. Even though he dosent see porn, even if hes a good provider, he likes that crap. No matter how many times I ask him,yell it,cry, threaten to leave, he always brings it up again. i feel he has always had this in him and met a woman who loves it,(shes a bisexual and has threesomes often) sex is just sex to her. He opened pandoras box and wants me to follow. I told him 3somes is permission cheating. If he needs that, to go for it. We will divorce, and he can have the whores he wants. He refuses and stops for awhile. Then starts again.
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wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 11:46 PM on Monday, July 29th, 2013
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whattheh ( member #40032) posted at 12:31 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
I was triggered by this too when I watched the press conference with his wife.
My husband accidentally called me a name that OW used for him and it triggered me. He and I have never used the word for each other though it's commonly used.
So I can't imagine how I'd react if he started talking 3somes and about things she was into and he knows I'm not into. It would make me feel disrespected and that he was introducing things he learned from being with her. In my case it's important for her to be erased in all ways if that's understandable. I can't bear the thought he was with another woman and if I found out it was deep and meaningful I would have divorced him.
[This message edited by whattheh at 6:32 PM, July 29th (Monday)]
Retired & now in 60's-M 39 Yrs-DD 2013-TT for 3 yrs (new details incl there had been 3 more MOWs)--all this started with porn use for mid 50s WH (felt he was possessed)~~Cheating and aftermath is huge time waste with high opportunity cost~~
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