I'm at such a loss. I haven't even gotten dressed today. I'm too lost in thought and reality. And yet he's at work, making new friends. How sweet for him.
He wants so much to make it work, and I just want to forget him. I'm 46, with 5 children from a marriage that lasted 22 years. My ex husband cheated and it crushed me. I remember being pregnant and laying on the floor in a pool of tears, after learning of his affairs. My next relationship lasted almos three years and ended with him cheating, and me having a miscarriage. And now here I am, into another relationship.... I let him in. Gave him my trust...and love....and he killed whatever I had left inside me.
How do you fix something that's dead?????
Them : in the past, where they can stay.
Whether there is anything left is up to the two of you. Do you remember what brought you both together, what you found wonderful about each other? Do you still see some of that in each other? If so, there may still be room for healing and rebuilding and another chance at happiness together.
Go into MC, and do it soon. Maybe IC for yourself. I wish you strength. So much strength.
One thing that helped me at the beginning is knowing that I didn't have to make any quick decisions. I broke up with him, and told him that I needed time to think about what I wanted. Take some time to yourself, and really evaluate the relationship.
I look at it as offering a chance for a new M.
It helped me to look at it that way. It had a more "moving forward" feel,
rather than looking back at the past & what was lost.
Sending strength! (((TrulySad)))
Are you in IC? Have you ever been? Did you try MC with the previous relationships. I ask because if you haven't processed those events then they are influencing you now. Maybe the reason things feel dead is because the ashes of 2 previous relationships are being dumped on top of this one.
I would urge you to get into IC. You have a lot of healing to do and it will help a lot. You don't have to make any decisions about your M now. I would work on you first and then you can see which direction YOU want to go for YOU to be happy.