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sodamnlost (original poster member #37190) posted at 1:29 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Today was the final day of hell week for us - my surgery (read my profile for why that relates to his affair). We went to the cabin I was in when he met and had sex with OW the first time in 2010 as well as when he took her on a "date" the last time he was with her last year. He took me to surgery (original plan was my BFF since suregry is so triggery for me).
It was a rough two weeks to say the least. BUT - we did it! He handled it all pretty well all things considered. He was there for me. Glad it's over! Surgery went way better than expected and overall the last two weeks were very much hell but not as bad as the dreams I had about what it would be like.
I am very glad I found the courage to let WH help and support me through this. I am very glad WH listened to my needs. I am very glad I have SI so I knew the returning of so many of my stress symptoms came back, are "normal". Not sure how I'd do this without SI honestly.
We are planning Retrouvaille hopefully this weekend.
For today - I have hope. When I think about the "other side" today, it's not just me saying yeah people say there is another side - I kinda actually believe that.
Thanks for all the support and to all the people who have shared their experiences their pain. Even not directed at me - it has been a lifesaver!
Me - BS original Dday 10-2012, separated June 2014, divorce Fall 2016
Grief, loss and pain taunt her - "you will never be the same." Like a Phoenix rising from the ashes, she rises and spreads her new wings as she brushes off the ashes an
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 1:36 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Glad you survived and happy to hear that WH listened and was there for you. 
I am so excited for you to go to Retrouvaille. There was a few big turning points on our road to reconciliation and Retrouvaille was one of the biggest for us. FWH learned so much about communicating. I did, too.
It was a lot of hard work, there really is no down time, but FWH was gung ho and really put an amazing effort into it. I was really proud of him.
Please let us know how it goes for you!
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
LosferWords ( member #30369) posted at 1:44 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Glad you were able to work through that tough week. Sounds like a very positive spot to be in.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 4:08 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Glad that everything worked out for you. Now, go listen and be together for your weekend. May it draw you closer.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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