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Question on Counseling: I am WH newly devastating my wonderful wife and my family. ALL MY FAULT. I want to address my issues and struggles and help my BS most of all...and make out marriage better if I can. She has agreed that counseling is good...and today...thank goodness she sent me a message asking me seeing the same counselor would be beneficial so that we could benefit together one day....

I have access to an Employee Assistance Program and counseling services...as well as psychologist/social worker benefit as part of my health care...so resources are not an issue...

What kinds of counselor can help the most?

When do/should we go together?

Thank you for everyone's help.....I really appreciate everything...

I suggest you each go on your own at the very least once, then go together. This will give each of you time to get your side out completely before tackling this together.

Biggest thing for you is DON'T LIE! Any omission is also a lie. Get it all out. My wife lied to the counselor and I for a year, and I might as well have flushed all that money and time down the toilet. If you're going to do this, do it all the way.

[This message edited by NotDefeatedYet at 9:41 PM, July 29th (Monday)]

NotDefeatedYet....thank you

I thought one on one counseling would be best first.....thanks...No....no lies...thats stopped.....I need to keep what I have been used to doing...LYING....in check

Does anyone know if there is a specific kind of counselor that works best?

Moving to the WS Forum.