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 259 (original poster member #22860) posted at 9:48 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

I don't understand why this bugs me......

when I was going through the financial settlement with my ex, he wanted some of the furniture.

fair enough I thought but I couldn't help myself (my big mouth) saying that 'she' wouldn't want any of the furniture that I had chosen and bought with him in 'her' (bought with his/my money) brand new house - cause its mostly antique like furniture. and he agreed with me.

I thought that was the end of it but he came into the marital home when I wasn't there and took quite a few things. this went against our agreement but my lawyer pointed out that it wasn't worth fighting over as he was entitled to half etc etc.

when I challenged ex on this he told me that 'he' wanted this stuff. ok fair enough - although I didn't like what he had done I had got to the stage where my thinking was along the lines of 'anything to get you out of my life is worth it'

now I see he is selling everything he took on-line.

I know he is a lying cheating scumbag FT......

so why does it bother me that he is selling this stuff?

don't really know what I'm asking for exactly, maybe I just needed to vent it out.

but it really does bug me that he is selling 'my/our' stuff. and I don't get why.

thanks for reading

Me = FBS
Him = gone


things that happen in my life do not define who I am. I get to choose to be the best I can be, for me. cause I'm worth it.



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Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 10:16 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

I understand your frustration, my ex wanted half of everything even down to the tupperware and then promptly threw everything out in front of our children! This hurt the kids so much to see this.

I don't think we will ever get a why they do these things. Or why they did the things they did to be in this position either.

((259))

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 11:31 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

Does he still have access to your home? I'd be more worried about him continuing to take stuff than anything else.

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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cmego ( member #30346) posted at 11:40 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

(((259)))

I stopped trying to make sense of the non-sensical stuff. They are stupid, it is what it is.

I'm with Ama, are you safe??

me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced

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 259 (original poster member #22860) posted at 2:06 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

yup I'm fine thanks. it was last year that we got the financial settlement finalised. he told me at that time that he had 'lost' his key, but only after first saying that he'd never had one.

I have room mates at the moment so I'm not alone here. and hopefully the house will sell very soon (I bought ex out) and I'll be able to move out and actually buy myself a new beginning new home.

I can't wait

Me = FBS
Him = gone


things that happen in my life do not define who I am. I get to choose to be the best I can be, for me. cause I'm worth it.



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PhoenixRisen ( member #35912) posted at 2:13 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013

I'm guessing the he/OW decided it wasn't fair for him to just walk away from 1/2 furniture so he should take it & if its nms, sell it to buy replacement ones so its still 50/50.

I had something similar to Bluebirds Tupperware event (minus kid involvement).

It sucks, it's stupid, and it dosent make sense.

But I just try (sometimes really really hard) to let it go

((Hugs))

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