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User Topic: imo iPhones are the perfect...
sunflowergirl30
♀ 28979
Member # 28979
Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

cheater phone. so many helpful apps and imessages do not show up on bill. I love/hate them.

wh has a iPhone 4s and it broke. he now wants a iPhone5.

I liked when we both had droids. now those were hard for wh to be sneaky with. lol


Wh-32 yrs old then, now 37
bs-(me)33 yrs old then, now 38
2 teens and a dog
Mow- our realtor, 45 then, now 50
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010
3rd D-day waitress he went home with 6-2010

Posts: 1148 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
Scubachick
♀ 39906
Member # 39906
Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really? I thought they were perfect for finding things out on him. I wouldn't have found half the stuff I did if it wasn't for his iPhone.

Posts: 1082 | Registered: Jul 2013
BeyondBreaking
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Member # 38020
Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate that people invent special apps to help cheaters not get caught. Immoral asshats.

Luckily, there are also special things you can use to catch him.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

"What did you expect? I am a scorpion."


Posts: 879 | Registered: Jan 2013
doesitgetbetter
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Member # 18429
Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not just iPhones, any smart phone has access to the same or similar apps that hide all sorts of stuff. So don't hate iPhones, it's the cheaters and the enablers that are the problem.


DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - FWS
Us - Committed
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
"Behold, I have refined thee, but not with silver; I have chosen thee in the furnace of affliction." Isaiah 48:10

Posts: 3859 | Registered: Feb 2008
crazyblindsided
♀ 35215
Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really? I thought they were perfect for finding things out on him. I wouldn't have found half the stuff I did if it wasn't for his iPhone.

Same for me. Everything I found out was because of his iphone. You can retrieve most of the deleted texts through the itunes backup files. And then there's the spotlight feature.


BS/FWS (me):41 Madhatter
WS/BS:44 Serial Cheater
Together 19 years, Married 14
DD(11) DS(8)
DDay(s) Too many to count
Final Dday 7/11/14 Same OW2

Posts: 2592 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
3Xthefool
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im not familiar with the "spotlight" feature on the iphones. How does it work? would I have to download it to my WW's iphone?

Posts: 59 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: New York City
crazyblindsided
♀ 35215
Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Im not familiar with the "spotlight" feature on the iphones. How does it work? would I have to download it to my WW's iphone?

Nope I believe they all have it. Just slide thumb to the right on screen and it will give you a search option. Search Away!!!


BS/FWS (me):41 Madhatter
WS/BS:44 Serial Cheater
Together 19 years, Married 14
DD(11) DS(8)
DDay(s) Too many to count
Final Dday 7/11/14 Same OW2

Posts: 2592 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
hotcoffee
♂ 39700
Member # 39700
Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have to agree, iPhones are the perfect resource for BSs to find everything. Androids can be customized too easily. All smartphones have cheater friendly apps.

Posts: 59 | Registered: Jun 2013
confused615
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree...when WH wanted an iphone recently,I was more than uncomfortable. I told him I would be ok with it,but only if it was understood that "spy"ware would be put on it immeidately. My gut is quiet..but with all the "helpful" cheater apps..no way. WH used his cell phone to cheat on me..it was his connection to CL and his secret email account. So cell phones in general are a huge trigger for me. Anyway,he agreed right away,and had no problem with the "spy"ware.."whatever you need to feel safe,baby..."

He got a cheap AT&T GoPhone. I can access the account online and see who he texts,and who texts him(only me and DD) and all calls. And NO internet.

HIS choice. He told me he knew I was scared and it was his job to make me feel safe.

Sorry for the slight t/j...I spend so much time talking on here about what he isn't doing,that I thought I'd take this opportunity to say something positive this time.


BS(me)42
FWH 46
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 9191 | Registered: Jan 2011
sunflowergirl30
♀ 28979
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Default  Posted: 2:15 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i get what everyone is saying. i think my wh has just become more tech savvy. each time i caught him i sadly also informed him how and he just found new ways to hide even the stupidest things. its just frustrating. i also do not like how imessages between iphones, ipads etc. do not show up on the bill.


Wh-32 yrs old then, now 37
bs-(me)33 yrs old then, now 38
2 teens and a dog
Mow- our realtor, 45 then, now 50
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010
3rd D-day waitress he went home with 6-2010

Posts: 1148 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
sunflowergirl30
♀ 28979
Member # 28979
Default  Posted: 2:18 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

i love SI! i learn something new everyday. i wish i didnt have to learn some stuff


Wh-32 yrs old then, now 37
bs-(me)33 yrs old then, now 38
2 teens and a dog
Mow- our realtor, 45 then, now 50
1st D-day EA w/mow our realtor 4-?-2007, 2nd D-day PA w/ same mow 5-29-2010
3rd D-day waitress he went home with 6-2010

Posts: 1148 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
TXBW68
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Member # 36456
Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THAT'S why he got away with it for so long!

H has a Droid for personal use and an Iphone for work!

He used to lock both and they were always within inches of his fingers. I can't tell you how many times before/after we separated that I wanted to shove them both where the sun doesn't shine!

(Now, I have access to both and he barely touches them!)


Me (46) WH (42),2 boys 15 & 11
M 18yrs T 22yrs
Separated 10 months (4/12 to 2/13)
Final Total - #1/#2 ONS and #3/#4 EA/PA - left me for #4, didn't know about #2 and 3 until he moved back home
We are solidly in R now

Posts: 792 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Dallas, TX
16forever
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Default  Posted: 3:43 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Now I am scared people me and my WS both had iPhones but he decided to go back to his droid ....... He said he liked it better should I be worried


Me:BS
Him:WS
3 awesome kids

Posts: 183 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: My own nightmare
Lonelygirl10
♀ 39850
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can retrieve most of the deleted texts through the itunes backup files

Really? Do they automatically backup, or does the owner have to manually back them up?


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

Posts: 1468 | Registered: Jul 2013
purplejacket4
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Member # 34262
Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How I know fWS isn't having an affair?

She constantly loses her cell phone. We spend a lot of time calling it and hunting for it.


Me: BS 45
Her: FWS 47 (both family med MDs)
OW: 40s (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
R-ish
I NEVER mind medical PMs; I became a doctor to serve others. Period.

Posts: 2630 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Here
crazyblindsided
♀ 35215
Member # 35215
Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Really? Do they automatically backup, or does the owner have to manually back them up?

If you plug an iphone into itunes it will give you an option to back up files. Not every deleted message is there, but there was enough for me to want to blow my eyes out.


BS/FWS (me):41 Madhatter
WS/BS:44 Serial Cheater
Together 19 years, Married 14
DD(11) DS(8)
DDay(s) Too many to count
Final Dday 7/11/14 Same OW2

Posts: 2592 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
Lonelygirl10
♀ 39850
Member # 39850
Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My guy told me that they couldn't be retrieved because he deleted without backing them up first on his computer. I'm not tech savy at all, so don't really know how all this works. Even if he's never hooked his phone to itunes before, could the deleted messages from 4 months ago still be there if he hooked it up to itunes now?


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

Posts: 1468 | Registered: Jul 2013
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