I agree with your sentiment about healing more from this site than from MC & IC combined. I have been going to MC & IC for 8 months now and just found this website a couple days ago. It doesn't surprise me that MC & IC counselors don't promote going on forums since its a direct competition for them.
I know this may sound selfish, but misery really does love company. Hearing that everyone else is experiencing the same things that I am, actually makes me feel like there is hope, if not for my marriage then at least for myself.
Hang in there everyone, its a rough road but in the end, we will all find our destination.