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User Topic: One Year Later......
gma56
♀ 19595
Member # 19595
Cool  Posted: 6:13 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Tomorrow marks one year since we went to court and signed the divorce papers.
All I can say is I'm still very RELIEVED !There's nothing I miss about my old life.
It's taken awhile to settle into my new life but I continue working on it.
I've started back into the workforce and trying to develope a retirement plan sucks.
I'm not dating and doubtful if I will anytime soon.
I'm OK and that is good enough.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
kiki1
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Member # 37184
Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((gma)))

Great post!!

stay happy


Posts: 686 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: new york
torn2bits
♀ 28376
Member # 28376
Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh gma, I am probably going to sign my papers in October.

I am so happy to hear that you are doing well after all that has past.
A shining example for us all.
Keep on that momentum!


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
phmh
♀ 34146
Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!

I can't wait to see how much more progress you've made a year from today.

What a wonderful, bright future you have ahead of you!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3483 | Registered: Dec 2011
FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17708 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
caregiver9000
♀ 28622
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

oh, gma, you are way too good to be OK! I think you are fabulous!!

Congrats on the milestone.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5911 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20453 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
peridot
♀ 18334
Member # 18334
Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has it already been a year? Glad to hear everything is going good for you.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4801 | Registered: Feb 2008
nutmegkitty
♀ 33882
Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good stuff!!!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2616 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
cmego
♀ 30346
Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 6:05 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4231 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
NaiveAgain
♀ 20849
Member # 20849
Default  Posted: 6:49 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 15409 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
newnormal
♀ 21925
Member # 21925
Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If SI had a like button, this tread would blow up


BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07

Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo


Posts: 1033 | Registered: Dec 2008
Too_Trusting
♀ 99
Member # 99
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm right there with ya, gma! Kudos to EVERY one of us here that takes the knife to the stomach, forges a new and better life, and emerges stronger for the experience.

Collectively and individually, we ROCK here at SI!!


"Anyone perfect must be lying; anything easy has its cost. Anyone plain can be lovely; anyone loved can be lost." Barenaked Ladies

Posts: 2491 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: North Carolina
gma56
♀ 19595
Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kudos to EVERY one of us here that takes the knife to the stomach, forges a new and better life, and emerges stronger for the experience.
Our lives are forever changed by the choices of someone we trusted and loved. We can choose to have a permanent self pity party or take our lives back.

Building a new life is a slow struggle for me but so thankful I have the opportunity to reach my goal of being happy and content with life again. I look back a year ago and I have made some progress but not near to where I want to end up.

I have a dream of where I want to be in three years and I'm on the right path to get there. I do wish it would happen quicker but the wait and hard work will pay off when I look up out my front door and see the beautiful mountains in the future.

I've learned to be patient with myself and count the blessings I do have now. How fast those blessings can be taken away.

Also I have found that there is more than one path to being happy with myself and life. My post divorce path isn't smooth it has many bumps, pits, and steep hills but I will get where I'm suppose to be.

I have so much love in me (I thought I wasn't capable of love again) and hope someone's heart will open up to be able to accept it. Only the future knows if that will happen, for now I'm OK.
Hugs to all of us going through, recovering, and starting over.
Gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 6:52 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)]


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How fast those blessings can be taken away.

I've become hyper-aware of this in the last five years and I do believe it enhances our appreciation of what we do have now.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17708 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Survivor3512
♀ 37946
Member # 37946
Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is so awesome! Congratulations!!


Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

Posts: 293 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Southeastern U.S.
ExposedNiblet
♀ 30803
Member # 30803
Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YOU are awesome!


Divorced
Me ($39.95 plus S & H)
DS1(17), DS2(15)

Enjoying this chapter in my life.
Learning that being alone does not mean being lonely.
Discovering that where I've been is not as important as where I'm going.


Posts: 355 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Right Here, Canada
lostmommy
♀ 33440
Member # 33440
Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations gma!


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself

Posts: 485 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: NY
Newlease
♀ 7767
Member # 7767
Default  Posted: 1:13 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are doing just fine.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 7789 | Registered: Aug 2005
LOSTinaBook
♀ 30309
Member # 30309
Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, July 31st (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad to hear you're doing well, gma!


fBW-me, 26 (now 29)
xWH-he

Divorced.
S (H e) B E (L i e) V E (d).


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