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User Topic: Maybe he is with an OW...
hurtbs
♀ 10866
Member # 10866
Target  Posted: 8:27 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I posted a few days ago that I stumbled upon some info about xWH. Namely that he and OW 2 did *not* get married. He's with a new girlfriend. He lost his job (yet again - that's two jobs in two years). And overall, looks poorly.

Just posting on another thread, I realized that while he is not with OW2, he may be with "an" OW. His new GF is another one of those "female friends" of his. In fact, all but OW1 was a "just friends". Not sure if he was ever involved with this woman or if he just keeps women in the bull pen by "just being friends" with them....

Most importantly - it doesn't matter anymore. It really doesn't bother me. This is mostly just a "Hmmm... I wonder." thing.

I've really come to terms with the notion that he was never faithful to me - physically or emotionally. I also realize that I've done a lot of work on myself, healed, and moved forward from that relationship. I will never put myself second again. I can't say that I don't have the scars from that relationship - they're there. I think a part of me will always metaphorically "walk with a limp," but I also know that I can go forward.


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15340 | Registered: Jun 2006
caregiver9000
♀ 28622
Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I like the metaphor. I wish you didn't "limp" though.

I like you have come to the conclusion that probably he always cheated and that the details just aren't important. But they crop up every once in awhile.

I realized the "assistant" hired by ex at a time when he didn't have business or a need for an assistant was probably an OW. And he brought her into my home. She sat on my couch...

Why did I think of this NOW? who knows. Maybe it is a symptom of limping.

(((hugs))) to you. I understand.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5938 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
missmydogs
♀ 36559
Member # 36559
Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, July 30th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The silver lining in this is, now it's not you that's being lied to and cheated on. I remember the days of going through the X's phone, computer, ect. And now I don't have to and neither do you! Cheers to peace


Me 36
DS 16
DD 4

Divorced!

I've made a huge mistake - GOB


Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
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