Temporary vacation that helped somewhat. But festered and anger came back worse than before. Got stuck in the Catch 22 - wanting things to be "normal" and then resenting the hell out of the fact that going back to normal meant it just "going away" for her.
Worse,when I tried to re-engage, it was clear that she thought "I should be over it by now".
No surprise that there was no R in the end.