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Is it rugsweeping if you've just had enough. We are 9 months out from Dday, we are working pretty successfully towards R. He has been so great doing the work. But sometimes I just want to forget about it ever happening. Not have the talks about it anymore. Not read anymore books and heck I don't want to even being on this website anymore. I just want to look towards more positive things and the rest of my life, but I feel like I'm totally rugsweeping and that it may have a bad effect. Did anyone else get to this point?

It's okay to take a mental break and enjoy life. I think completely moving it off of the agenda is a risky move, though. I kind of view the good periods of time as moving these discussions off of the kitchen table, and on to the side table in the living room. Out of view, but still there if we need to talk about it.

BTDT

Temporary vacation that helped somewhat. But festered and anger came back worse than before. Got stuck in the Catch 22 - wanting things to be "normal" and then resenting the hell out of the fact that going back to normal meant it just "going away" for her.

Worse,when I tried to re-engage, it was clear that she thought "I should be over it by now".

No surprise that there was no R in the end.

Thanks, making just a break from it seems better than throwing it all off the table. Sometimes I feel it gets in the way of R. I get that we have to give it time and work through all the issues but its very annoying to be having a great day and then just having thoughts of and mind movies just completely invade my freaking thoughts! I just want to feel normal again and enjoy my family.