Time to take care of business now. See a lawyer so you know what your rights are. Take half the money and put it in an account only you can access. He will not be thinking about your best interests anymore. Kick him out if you can. Give yourself time to think. Eat. Drink, Sleep, Breathe.
You are in a for a ride. Take care of yourself and your children now. He won't be.
I just want my life back. I really felt like all the pieces had fallen into place for me, and I was ready to just cruise through life with the man of my dreams, making babies and being awesome.
Ditto. We were making plans to expand our family, and buy a house next year. We need a new car (the one we have was mine from before the marriage) and I agreed to get the one he wanted (a Dodge truck). Now I feel so confused and betrayed and I just want to feel normal again. It suck when someone takes off your rose-colored glasses and stomps the shit out of them. For me (and I imagine many of us on SI), I don't think that I will ever wear those glasses again. Even if I can finad happiness again one day, I sure as hell won't ever be fooled into thinking my life is as great as it appears to be.
Hang in there, and post often. People here will comfort you, but they were probably also tell you things you don't want to hear, so be prepared for that.
It's been 4 days since I confronted my husband, and I finally got some half-assed remorse (guilt?) out of him yesterday, but I'm pretty sure he hasn't ended his relationship with the OW like he said he did.
I hope things work our for you, whichever way they end up going. ::hugs::
married 2y, together 2.5y
1 beautiful daughter, 23m
"Someday soon, I'm going to put my life together; Win or lose, I'm starting over again."
I woudl encourage you to go to this link: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/text.forums.asp?tid498627&ap301 which is a special thread for BSs whose WS may be or is sexually addicted. These people have been through the fires and can help you from the get-go. Please. Go talk to them for support. There's a lot of "normal" stuff that we tell people in the JFO forum, but you are going to need additional support and suggestions in your situation.
Please come back often for support. We're all here for you. (((hugs)))
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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