Thank you for your responses. I'm a BW. My WH is going to give me his timeline next Friday after I get back in town. D DAY WAS 4/12/13. I found out about a year long affair with his HS sweetheart while we were separated. Four months after he came home, I found out he spent the night with her when he was supposed to be out of town. Someone saw them together and that was the first I knew of anything.
He TT'd me since then with most of what I know coming from my sources and my proof. Even then, he lied until she confirmed something.
He has been very remorseful. He has gone to IC, MC, and is now going to church for guidance and men's groups. He lost his father when he was seven and feels he could use the help of the older men there to learn how to "love and cherish a wife".
My question is about the timeline. He told me that some of the things he will tell me will hurt my feelings. I'm supposing lies will have to become truths. How hard was it to finally tell the truth? We're you able to be completely honest right away or did you withhold and/or minimize? What can I do to make it easier for him to tell me the complete and honest story? Did your BW's crying stop you?
I know I will have so many questions. I don't want it to be an interrogation but my mind has been going in so many directions that I will have to eliminate the horrible fantasy stories it's made up.
I don't want my reactions to impede his honesty but I'm afraid I will just fall apart. I'm crying as I type this so please help me if you can.
I hope I haven't violated any posting rules.