YOu can get through this!
YOu have a lot going on, but you should also be aware that pregnancy is often the last card a AP can play to keep contact/or demand more from your WS.
My husband's AP only said she was pregnant when he demanded NC. Needless to say, she wasn't, and facts also revealed she couldn't have possibly been pregnant in the first place.
Sometimes AP's get the feeling too that things are slipping away from them, and use pregnancy as a last ditch attempt for continuing contact.
If the AP is really pregnant, you will know. Whether you are pro-life or prochoice, when my husband told her to go get an abortion in the midst of their NC conversation. Later, suddenly she had a miscarriage she told a friend that didn't require any doctors or hospitals.
If she is pregnant, first, she would also need to prove that it's his child. And until it's born, and she approaches you, forget about it.
If he wants to write a letter, demanding an abortion, she will know where he stands on any pregnancy, and real future with her.
Please know that I am not trying to be harsh regarding a child, but my dad also had an affair and pregnancy story, that also turned out to be false, so I am very skeptical about these things.
Still, you really may also question NC by your WS. Please follow through with all the NC/R suggestions here, to ensure your safety and future happiness and your relationship.
Good luck! And as his therapist said, even if this was a reality, others have done it and we could have survived this too!
Hope this helps! You can do this!
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